Hope you are doing well
I am a guy in my 20s.
I felt like been short is haunting me psychologically.
Every time I go out and see that most of the people are taller than me, I felt incompetent.
At the same time I am afraid that people will look at me differently once they know I would want to break my leg just to grow few centimeter
because people are always going to say "what matters the most is on the inside"
How do you deal with friends and family? do you tell them about it openly? or do you keep it low key?
I really wanted to do LL, but there is no way I can afford it...
reading diaries like this kept me going, it motivates me to work harder so I can do LL someday!
Hi Hokkaido! I hope you're well my friend. I thought I would reply before I head out to my PT. I'm 37 and you're in your 20's...you have a lot of time to figure things out. I understand the impact that a man's height can have on his self-esteem. To be perfectly honest, height has bothered me for my entire life. When I was 15 years old, I had a doctor tell me that I was done growing at 5'1.25" tall. At that point, I had to make a decision. I was either going to give up and allow the reality of being short to define me; or I could stand up, all FIVE FEET ONE of me and be a man and face the world as who I was. Truth is, I had no choice. I grew up with some awesome parents. They were great role models and the conversations I had with them really helped me overcome my challenges in this life. You know what I did? I tried. Yep, that's it. I said to myself..."to hell with my height", I'm going to try my best. So I went out there and I did everything I could to be the best version of me. This included the following:
- I educated myself. Went to college and earned a degree in business and management of information systems. Good grades have NOTHING to do with height. I AM SMART.
- I built my fitness. I worked out every other day, without fail, and before CLL was bench pressing nearly twice my weight at the gym. I have thin waist line and defined chest and arms. An impressive physique has nothing to do with your height. I AM STRONG.
- I controlled my career path. I realize that with my situation I needed to be In CONTROL. I could not allow others to decide my destiny; so I worked tooth and nail to start a company and I was successful at that. I launched my company at 26 years old and 11 years later it stands and continues to grow. By owning a successful company with great employees that handle the shifts, I have 100% of freedom of my time and finances. In fact, my entire CLL journey is being paid for by my own dollar and I am not feeling one bit of financial impact by it. Also, since I was successful in creating a company and hence my time...I am able to work remotely and be away from the office as much I as I need. There is no interruption to the great life I created for myself. I AM IN CONTROL OF MY CAREER. I AM FREE TO USE MY TIME IN ANYWAY I WANT AND I AM FINANCIALLY FREE.
- I took care of my temple. I dressed nicely, I have great higene, I work out. You don't have to be tall; to look nice and well made. Sure, I understand that most woman prefer a man taller then she is; but you know what? I can't do anything about that. I did everything I could to take care of myself and it made me feel great about myself and as a result, my confidence helped me score many dates with woman, albeit, most woman I dated were on the shorter side; but they were and are SO beautiful. I AM CONFIDENT. I AM HEALTHY. I AM HANDSOME
- I'm innovative and find solutions. Being short is not something you have to accept 100%. You can do things about it. I have been sporting shoe lifts for years and they have been a tremendous help to me! Ultimately, I have had to let my girlfriends know that I sport these shoes and not one woman has minded. In fact, they LOVE me even more for it. They think I'm so darn cute and each one always told me...I love you regardless. In the same breath they understand why I chose to wear shoe lifts. They get it and they never judged me for it. In fact, I think they kind of found me a bit rebellious at the end of the day and that is something to love. Now, i have decided to seek CLL to help with my height challenge. 2 - 3 inches on my bone is 2 - 3 inches that I do not need a shoe lift OR if i decided to wear a shoe lift, now I am 2 - 3 inches taller still! Be creative and innovative. I FIND SOLUTIONS AND I CARRY THEM OUT.
You have to say these things to yourself and be these things:
I AM STRONG
I AM IN CONTROL OF MY CAREER.
I AM FREE TO USE MY TIME IN ANYWAY I WANT
I AM FINANCIALLY FREE
I AM CONFIDENT.
I AM HEALTHY
I AM HANDSOME
I FIND SOLUTIONS AND I CARE THEM OUT....
And I have ONE more thing to add to this list. And I'm proud of this as well:
I AM SHORT.
If people don't like it; then they can take a back seat. In this life, regardless of the heights of others, I chose to be the driver of the bus..
Hokkaido, be the leader, young man. Stand on the two feet you have right now and realize that you have so much to be thankful for and so much you can achieve and be and feel... and your HEIGHT should not stop you. If you decide to do CLL one day; then it will be a challenging 6 months or so; but it will be your new height and you would have earned it. You can be proud of all your accomplishments ...make CLL just one of many great accomplishments.
Good luck ! and pm me if you have questions.
P.S. I didn't disclose my CLL journey to anyone other then my most closest family members and friends. This is a personal journey dedicated to only you and the ones who truly love you.