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[TallerDream]

yeah... there's this girl I've been talking to and I really like her. I finally made my move but I was politely declined claiming her boyfriend should be tall.. she's 5'7 and I'm 5'9 but with her footwear, we see eye to eye. Not to mention she alleges I'm shorter than her even though I insist she is not and my ID proves such. I thought she really liked me but I was placed in the friendzone without even realising so. fk these bitches.
I don't want to be bitter and remain confident with my head held high but this is really demoralising.

[TinyTL]

sad story, but something tells me you're not 5'9.
you have to be honest about your height man, or you will live in denial phase for ever

[TIBIKE200]

I am 5'7 and I have never been rejected because of height (atleast never had a girl say it to me to the face)

[JON SNOW]

what a rookie......your mistake was to make your move without a rope and chloroform...................just kidding, do not try this at home hahaha

being serious, do not let this get you down , if you are really 5'9 and her or other women find it inappropriate there's nothing to do, except CLL, but you can be 6 footer and still be rejected, so as you said fk these bitches and move on

[JON SNOW]

I am 5'7 and I have never been rejected because of height (atleast never had a girl say it to me to the face)

I am also  5' 7.3''   and also have never been told in my face, when claim to be 5' 7 people estimate that I have more height,
I think almost everyone lies about his height, and this has distorted reality

[wants2growtaller]

i think its the kind of women you are going for.  If you go for looks..and go for someone who is into looks then you are going to get rejected. But if you for someone who values whats on the inside more than the outside..than thats a better strategy

[Ascending]

It may have been because of your height or more likely it is probably because you didn't click from her perspective.  There are some girls who prefer taller guys - oddly (from my observation) these tend to be girls who are in the 5-0' to 5'2 region.  Interestingly most of my tall friends like girls about that height.  Maybe there is a co-evolutionary match.    I think this is because shorter girls feel more vulnerable and hence feel safer with a guy that can protect them.  Likewise taller guys enjoy the effortless attention from these girls and therefore it is not surprising that they are attracted to them.  In my experience taller girls were actually more open to a shorter guy.  However, I did insist on flats - this was to cover my insecurity.  I think there is something comical about a guy walking hand in hand with girl that is quite a bit taller.

Fk these bitches is probably the wrong attitude.  She rejected you because she was not attracted to you - this is not unreasonable.  A more interesting question is how did you not notice that you were in the friend zone?  Can you tell if a girl is attracted to you?  Did you have to ask her why she doesn't want to have a relationship with you or did she tell you anyway?  Sorry but I am imagining you showing her your ID to prove that you are actually taller and therefore invalidating her rejection - quite comical if it did happen.  I suggest you try to be friends with as many girls as you can.  This might help you answer these questions and make you more attractive.  Just a friendly suggestion.

[Ascending]

If it makes you feel better - the most successful womaniser I know asks about 5 to 10 girls out per day - he doesn't use online dating apps.  He told me he gets rejected about 90% of the time - but that still means about 3 dates per week minimum.  He claims its a numbers game and I have no reason to doubt him.  I have seen him in with some amazing girls and he isn't particularly tall, well built or gifted in looks.  He has become very comfortable around girls though - through experience.

[JON SNOW]

i think its the kind of women you are going for.  If you go for looks..and go for someone who is into looks then you are going to get rejected. But if you for someone who values whats on the inside more than the outside..than thats a better strategy

the vast majority of people go after the appearance to say otherwise is to be hypocrite or very innocent

If you find that rare unicorn of a woman, let us know

[YourSpaceBoyfriend]

I am 5'7 and I have never been rejected because of height (atleast never had a girl say it to me to the face)

+1

[Ascending]

I am 5'7 and I have never been rejected because of height (atleast never had a girl say it to me to the face)
...
+1

I think there is a threshold height of acceptability for men - and it depends on the average height in that country.  In the UK it is about 5'6.  This is well below average but still acceptable.  As you drop lower than that height you will become increasingly invisible to women from an attraction perspective.

[TallerDream]

okay perhaps I didn't explain the situation very well, don't get me wrong we actually hooked up a few times and at first, she gave me hints like "I thought you were taller but it's okay" (we met through a dating app). She also said I had lied about my height, which I never did, saying I am 5'6, not 5'9 (wtf). When this actually happened was during our first date and she was wearing some heels, I think she was standing at 5'10 as I was just looking up a tiny bit. Things escalated and I wanted something more but she cut me loose claiming she couldn't get over my height. She also said I'm a great kisser, that I'm good in bed but she wants someone taller. This really pissed me off. Obviously, I went no contact ever since despite her several attempts to revive our "friendship". I just cannot get over the fact she doesn't want the same I want and indeed it is my height the main issue. She also said I'm really good looking, mature especially for my age etc. She has also laughed at how my hands are small for a man (they are but I guess they're proportional to my height), it's fking embarrassing.
About lying about my height, cmon guys I'm in a website where people are frustrated with their stature, including me, and see this as an escape where we all can blow off some steam about it, why would I lie about it? I am 174cm in the morning and 172cm in the evening but I always stand at 175cm wearing shoes. The reason I posted this was to vent and to express how bitter and frustrated I am with people always perceiving me as less of a man because of a few inches.

[wants2growtaller]

Maybe try going for less shallow women. If you place looks on a high pedistool dont be surprise when it bites you in the ass.

[Ascending]

okay perhaps I didn't explain the situation very well, don't get me wrong we actually hooked up a few times and at first, she gave me hints like "I thought you were taller but it's okay" (we met through a dating app). She also said I had lied about my height, which I never did, saying I am 5'6, not 5'9 (wtf). When this actually happened was during our first date and she was wearing some heels, I think she was standing at 5'10 as I was just looking up a tiny bit. Things escalated and I wanted something more but she cut me loose claiming she couldn't get over my height. She also said I'm a great kisser, that I'm good in bed but she wants someone taller. This really pissed me off. Obviously, I went no contact ever since despite her several attempts to revive our "friendship". I just cannot get over the fact she doesn't want the same I want and indeed it is my height the main issue. She also said I'm really good looking, mature especially for my age etc. She has also laughed at how my hands are small for a man (they are but I guess they're proportional to my height), it's fking embarrassing.
About lying about my height, cmon guys I'm in a website where people are frustrated with their stature, why would I lie about it? I am 174cm in the morning and 172cm in the evening but I always stand at 175cm wearing shoes. The reason I posted this was to vent and to express how bitter and frustrated I am with people always perceiving me as less of a man because of a few inches.

It may well be just the height but I still think she decided you were not right for her for some combination of reasons.  Both guys and gals say all sorts to cushion the blow.  It didn't work out - forget about it and move on.

[JON SNOW]

If it makes you feel better - the most successful womaniser I know asks about 5 to 10 girls out per day - he doesn't use online dating apps.  He told me he gets rejected about 90% of the time - but that still means about 3 dates per week minimum.  He claims its a numbers game and I have no reason to doubt him.  I have seen him in with some amazing girls and he isn't particularly tall, well built or gifted in looks.  He has become very comfortable around girls though - through experience.

sorry but your friend is not a womanizer in my book, obectively, what he does is play the game of numbers

any man that is average in appearance, social status, and assertive behavior, they would have those results

obviously you must have thick skin and the correct mentality, to handle the rejection of thousands of women a month, so kudos to your friend

[Ascending]

sorry but your friend is not a womanizer in my book, obectively, what he does is play the game of numbers

any man that is average in appearance, social status, and assertive behavior, they would have those results

obviously you must have thick skin and the correct mentality, to handle the rejection of thousands of women a month, so kudos to your friend

Oxford dictionary definition: "A man who engages in numerous casual sxxual affairs with women."

I think by that definition he certainly is.  He is sales guy (happily married too) and he thinks of chatting up women as another sales/marketing effort.  And he thinks that failure is normal.  In fact of the womanisers I know none of them are particularly outstanding.  I think this is a common misconception.  All of them have concurrent affairs.  A common attitude is that by having a pipeline of opportunities and more than one affair at a time, they are less hung up on any particular outcome and therefore less prone to destructive relationship acts like neediness, control, indifference, jealousy or obsession.  Their varied relationships also makes them more interesting in that they are concurrently exposed to a number of different experiences, views and perspectives on life.

[JON SNOW]

Maybe try going for less shallow women. If you place looks on a high pedistool dont be surprise when it bites you in the ass.

most wamen are shallow same as men, but what is worse is they have a distortion of reality, for exemple an OKCupid study shows women say 80% of men are "below average" looking,  the distribution given by the men was more accurate to reality, describing in fact a bell distibucion

Women are very shallow. I thought this was common knowledge at this point.

[Ascending]

most wamen are shallow same as men, but what is worse is they have a distortion of reality, for exemple an OKCupid study shows women say 80% of men are "below average" looking,  the distribution given by the men was more accurate to reality, describing in fact a bell distibucion

Women are very shallow. I thought this was common knowledge at this point.

OKCupid is hardly a respected academic source of human psychology.  The best we can learn is that the women that use OKCupid think that 80% of the men that also use OKCupid are below average looking.  Without knowing more about the demographics of their users it is hard to draw any more conclusions.  What does it reliably tell us about women in general?  Not a lot.

[Johnson1111]

Let's all break our legs for these 4/10, used up skanks so we can meet their standards on dating apps. Lets not do it for any other reason.

[CaptainAmerica]

Honestly just sounds like a bad apple and bad luck. This is an extremely unusual instance and you’re taking it too far because you already have height neurosis. From the amount of   tests I’ve read so far doesn’t sound like she was worth your time. I hate this type of brutish, obnoxious, easy, (constantly making diminutive jokes about men to distract from the fact that she has no integral value of her own) cunt so much, and I know just the kind. If it wasn’t your height it would’ve been something else, trust me.

[CaptainAmerica]

OKCupid is hardly a respected academic source of human psychology.  The best we can learn is that the women that use OKCupid think that 80% of the men that also use OKCupid are below average looking.  Without knowing more about the demographics of their users it is hard to draw any more conclusions.  What does it reliably tell us about women in general?  Not a lot.

Ok edwardv6, the rest of us will live in reality while intellectual neckbeards like yourself can await a formalized, nation-wide survey of attraction of 150 million women in America to accept what is beyond evident by just observing regular human  behavior around us.

[Ascending]

Honestly just sounds like a bad apple and bad luck. This is an extremely unusual instance and you’re taking it too far because you already have height neurosis. From the amount of   tests I’ve read so far doesn’t sound like she was worth your time. I hate this type of brutish, obnoxious, easy, (constantly making diminutive jokes about men to distract from the fact that she has no integral value of her own) cunt so much, and I know just the kind. If it wasn’t your height it would’ve been something else, trust me.

I think you need to have a bit more respect for women.  Without knowing anything more about her or hearing her side of the story you are making all sorts of prejudiced conclusions.  From what I read she did at least put out so it wasn't all bad? 

[Ascending]

Ok edwardv6, the rest of us will live in reality while intellectual neckbeards like yourself can await a formalized, nation-wide survey of attraction of 150 million women in America to accept what is beyond evident by just observing regular human  behavior around us.

I have no idea who edward is supposed to be - this is my first and only profile.  Making snap judgements again?  You've been reading that book "how to win friends and influence people".
And neckbeard?  Really?  Judging from your attitudes to women I would say that describes you not me.  I have a feeling that getting taller is not going to help you much - you need to fix that mindset.  You seem to think that you should be entitled to a girl's affection instead of earning it.  All women are different and wonderful in their own way.

If I was the OP I would have swallowed pride and agreed to be friends with her.  It is always good to be friends with girls.  You get another female perspective and she may introduce you to her girl friends - much better than online dating.

[Sanity]

it is wat it is. move on. also we can get inches vertically with cll but the problem is dem small hands

think man, wat about those small hands, how can we make it bigger. fk

[TakaRyo]

5'9 and you want more height? Ridiculous.

[TallerDream]

5'9 and you want more height? Ridiculous.

maybe you perceive it as more than enough to get through life but I don't.
EDIT : Just noticed your signature, you're 6'2, no one needs your ironic support get the fk outta here

[TallerDream]

it is wat it is. move on. also we can get inches vertically with cll but the problem is dem small hands

think man, wat about those small hands, how can we make it bigger. fk

yeah, I've got childish hands, it's fking embarrassing they're only 7 inches long, I've got small fingers and nails too... it's comical

[CaptainAmerica]

I have no idea who edward is supposed to be - this is my first and only profile.  Making snap judgements again?  You've been reading that book "how to win friends and influence people".
And neckbeard?  Really?  Judging from your attitudes to women I would say that describes you not me.  I have a feeling that getting taller is not going to help you much - you need to fix that mindset.  You seem to think that you should be entitled to a girl's affection instead of earning it.  All women are different and wonderful in their own way.

If I was the OP I would have swallowed pride and agreed to be friends with her.  It is always good to be friends with girls.  You get another female perspective and she may introduce you to her girl friends - much better than online dating.

Never laughed so hard at a post on the internet before. Good luck with your life little buddy.

[CaptainAmerica]

I think you need to have a bit more respect for women.  Without knowing anything more about her or hearing her side of the story you are making all sorts of prejudiced conclusions.  From what I read she did at least put out so it wasn't all bad? 

Did I ever say I lack respect for women...? If you’ve actually dated young attractive girls passed the year 1990 you’d know the type of girl mentioned in the OP. They constantly sh1ttest and make passive aggressive jokes and basically act the same way as dudes thinking it makes them more attractive. Yeah they put out, but they’re not girlfriend or relationship material.

Also the fact that you consider your friend a “womanizer” because he just gets numbers from girls after asking hundreds a week  (despite being married, what?) and just your general views on life tells me more than enough about you. I appreciate the replies but I don’t care to read anymore, you are probably too old or just naive for us to ever agree on anything.

[Ascending]

Never laughed so hard at a post on the internet before. Good luck with your life little buddy.

Glad to entertain captain! 

[Ascending]

Did I ever say I lack respect for women...? If you’ve actually dated young attractive girls passed the year 1990 you’d know the type of girl mentioned in the OP. They constantly sh1ttest and make passive aggressive jokes and basically act the same way as dudes thinking it makes them more attractive. Yeah they put out, but they’re not girlfriend or relationship material.

Actually I have dated young attractive girls passed the year 1990 and none were like that.  Some did make some digs but I took it as banter and carefully returned the 'compliment'.  I think they do test you out to see how you react and see if you can take it.  If some girl told me I had small hands I would probably have just laughed it off and made some joke of it - like telling her I am really a trans woman hence the height, small hands and great kissing.