Im 1.65 on the edge. My height disphorya is big so dont whant to talk to people, but at the same time I want to do this and kind afraid to be honest, be alone, with broken legs.
1) after the surgery do you really overcome the height dysphoria?
2) it is that bad really be alone doing this? How do you manage that?
Hi OP!
I was 165cm pre surgery, and now stand 177cm after doing 11,5cm on femurs.
I have 100% overcome my height dysphoria after reaching my new height. Pre surgery I was a very confident guy, and developed very good social skills due to my lack in height. Because I was always the shortest man and even person in a room or in any social gathering I felt I had to "prove" my self in other areas. Pre surgery I probably wasn't very aware of this, but thinking back and feeling the way I do now. It is very obvious I was in fact "compensating" for my short stature. Another thing I struggled with, was that I never felt like an adult.
Post surgery I am a much calmer and relaxed person, and I seldom feel the need to "prove" my self anymore. I am much more confident in who I am, and also just don't care as much anymore. I don't feel the need to compensate for being short, since I no longer am short. And maybe most importantly I feel like an adult. Being 177cm and wearing shoes with a small heel (like Chelsea boots) I am pretty much average height. Sure there a plenty of men who are taller than me. But even men at 2 meters tall are a little less than a head taller than me, rather that a head and a half.
From feeling and being treated like a real adult to my massive change in female attraction, this has truly changed my life. I have written about how women now see me after surgery multiple times in my diary. So read that for many detailed encounters. But long story short, I have gone from being a below average guy when it comes to attracting women to now competing with my best looking friends who always get female attention. I have had more sxxual encounters in the past two months that the 13 years prior to my surgery. At this rate I will surpass my who life time accumulated sxxual experiences from age 13 to 36 in another few months time. I've gone from never ever being approached by women to randoms girls at clubs straight out making out with me (yes, this has happened multiple times in the past few months).
I told my closest friends and family, and I would highly recommend you do the same. I think doing this all alone without any support or anybody to talk to is damn near impossible. It's hard enough on its own, so don't make it harder. I haven't been judged once, and after being off the crutches for a little more than a year - I or others seldom talk about my surgery. It is all in the past.
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