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shortisnotfun

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How exactly do you that? Would you not feel like an absolute fraud hiding that your entire life not just from your wife, your kids, your brother, your sisters, etc.

I feel like a 5 inch gain and not telling your partner about it is comparable to changing your gender and not telling your partner about it.
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Re: How do you tell your future wife/gf you were 5 inches shorter before?
« Reply #1 on: September 10, 2023, 06:25:08 PM »

If that's how you feel, I advise you to seek psychological help. 
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Re: How do you tell your future wife/gf you were 5 inches shorter before?
« Reply #2 on: September 10, 2023, 07:25:29 PM »

If that's how you feel, I advise you to seek psychological help.

What do you mean psychological help? Why act like I'm crazy when this is actually a very valid question to ask
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Re: How do you tell your future wife/gf you were 5 inches shorter before?
« Reply #3 on: September 10, 2023, 08:02:09 PM »

What does a woman with breast implants tell those people?  Probably similar for LL folks.

For my part, I had an early puberty (triggered by who knows what) which shortened the amount of my growth and to address it, I had a medical procedure on my legs as I felt it was holding me back in life and brought me in line with my other family members.

I dont think she would care if you were sincere. 
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Re: How do you tell your future wife/gf you were 5 inches shorter before?
« Reply #4 on: September 10, 2023, 11:20:41 PM »

My current partner had a nose that was not to her liking, she decided to have a rhinoplasty and some time later I introduced her to my family and we never mentioned the surgery, they made comments like her "nose" was very pretty, but she never mentioned that she had surgery, neither did I, it is not necessary.... Why? because people unconsciously underestimate people who have surgery and when the results are not natural they just don't give them the value. It's like the guy who is 5'10" and they say "Wow, he looks so cute this tall" but if they find out that he used to be 5'7", they will simply say ""Ah, he looks good, but he has surgery"" unfortunately people are like that. I am going to increase my height, about 6 cm. only my partner will know, she is the one who is going to take care of me, the rest of my family doesn't have to know, there are things that don't need to be revealed to the public, and that doesn't make you a bad person.
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Re: How do you tell your future wife/gf you were 5 inches shorter before?
« Reply #5 on: September 11, 2023, 02:48:48 AM »

The question of natural or not, imo, only matters in the context of having children. If you don’t plan to have children, then it’s a complete non-issue. Beauty is beauty no matter how it was achieved. I’m not any less attracted to someone who has to workout to maintain their figure versus someone who just always had that same figure.

If you plan on having children, it’s worth mentioning just to have all your cards out on the table in terms of what to expect though.
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Re: How do you tell your future wife/gf you were 5 inches shorter before?
« Reply #6 on: September 11, 2023, 03:00:07 AM »

This is exactly how you realize people in this forum have many psychological issues not limited to height.

Nobody would give a  , really.
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Re: How do you tell your future wife/gf you were 5 inches shorter before?
« Reply #7 on: September 11, 2023, 07:49:53 AM »

Agreed with Breakmylegs people on here are asking the stupidest questions, that shows they're worrying about problems that ain't problems. Even if a women decides to leave you because you were honest and told her that you broke your legs went trough crap for a better life and mental health she doesn't deserve to be in your life anyway...
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Re: How do you tell your future wife/gf you were 5 inches shorter before?
« Reply #8 on: September 11, 2023, 09:14:42 AM »

I don’t see how his question is not valid.
I’m willing to bet most if not all women will instantly lose respect and attraction to you if they found out you did LL.
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Re: How do you tell your future wife/gf you were 5 inches shorter before?
« Reply #9 on: September 11, 2023, 09:57:26 AM »

Do you lose respect for women who wear makeup?
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Re: How do you tell your future wife/gf you were 5 inches shorter before?
« Reply #10 on: September 11, 2023, 10:18:29 AM »

I’m willing to bet most if not all women will instantly lose respect and attraction to you if they found out you did LL.

I agree, that's why its a dumb question, as only an idiot would tell a girl they did LL. There's plenty of downside and no upside whatsoever.
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Re: How do you tell your future wife/gf you were 5 inches shorter before?
« Reply #11 on: September 11, 2023, 10:20:50 AM »

And as for "what about my kids", well if you have kids they have the chance of inheriting your short genes regardless of if you told the girl or not. The only thing telling her does is, she might decide she doesn't want kids with you, so again there's no upside for you in this situation whatsoever.

Stay quiet and take the secret to the grave.
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Re: How do you tell your future wife/gf you were 5 inches shorter before?
« Reply #12 on: September 11, 2023, 10:26:53 AM »

I don’t see how his question is not valid.
I’m willing to bet most if not all women will instantly lose respect and attraction to you if they found out you did LL.

Not only I'd find it pathetic that one would do it for women in the first place, but it's absolutely a lie.
A guy went publicly and was shown on TV, went from 5'5' to 5'11", and said women didn't even care he was still crippled from the surgery and everyone knew, he was still getting girls that didn't give an F about the surgery.

Heck, many in this forum, like Viking or the Spanish guy already had a stable relationship and still do the surgery.

I wish doctors would purge men that decide the main reason for their surgery is pus*y, because they're totally not in the right state of mind.




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Re: How do you tell your future wife/gf you were 5 inches shorter before?
« Reply #13 on: September 11, 2023, 11:40:34 AM »

Not only I'd find it pathetic that one would do it for women in the first place, but it's absolutely a lie.
A guy went publicly and was shown on TV, went from 5'5' to 5'11", and said women didn't even care he was still crippled from the surgery and everyone knew, he was still getting girls that didn't give an F about the surgery.

Heck, many in this forum, like Viking or the Spanish guy already had a stable relationship and still do the surgery.

I wish doctors would purge men that decide the main reason for their surgery is pus*y, because they're totally not in the right state of mind.

It’s not about whether you “do it for pussy”. No matter for what reason you do LL you’ll inevitably be met with the dilemma of informing your significant other about having done LL.

If you think most women don’t care about you having done LL and just see it as having dyed your hair color I’d seriously advise you to reconsider who is really not in the right state of mind.
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Re: How do you tell your future wife/gf you were 5 inches shorter before?
« Reply #14 on: September 11, 2023, 11:53:55 AM »

Agreed with Breakmylegs people on here are asking the stupidest questions, that shows they're worrying about problems that ain't problems. Even if a women decides to leave you because you were honest and told her that you broke your legs went trough crap for a better life and mental health she doesn't deserve to be in your life anyway...

Dude, why do people who haven't done LL have the strongest opinion about this? No offense, but you haven't gone through the stigma or the operation to have this strong of an opinion!

When you get to the point of letting a women you love know that you broke your perfectly fine legs in half for vanity, let me know!
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Re: How do you tell your future wife/gf you were 5 inches shorter before?
« Reply #15 on: September 11, 2023, 11:58:41 AM »

If its such a big deal to you that you did this, then tell her bruh.  People are discounting the point as its something most people do and then they move on.

Like a nose job or boob job, as long as nothing goes wrong, most people just move on with life. 

Maybe its the difference between 2-3 inches and 5 inches though.  2 inches is well within common genetic variability.
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Re: How do you tell your future wife/gf you were 5 inches shorter before?
« Reply #16 on: September 11, 2023, 12:02:25 PM »

Not only I'd find it pathetic that one would do it for women in the first place, but it's absolutely a lie.
A guy went publicly and was shown on TV, went from 5'5' to 5'11", and said women didn't even care he was still crippled from the surgery and everyone knew, he was still getting girls that didn't give an F about the surgery.

Heck, many in this forum, like Viking or the Spanish guy already had a stable relationship and still do the surgery.

I wish doctors would purge men that decide the main reason for their surgery is pus*y, because they're totally not in the right state of mind.

Another guy who hasn't done the surgery having a strong opinion. This surgery is not on the same level as a nose job or a hair transplant, and you know that!
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Re: How do you tell your future wife/gf you were 5 inches shorter before?
« Reply #17 on: September 11, 2023, 12:03:48 PM »

You mean in effort?  Why does that matter years later?
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Re: How do you tell your future wife/gf you were 5 inches shorter before?
« Reply #18 on: September 11, 2023, 01:04:55 PM »

When you get to the point of letting a women you love know that you broke your perfectly fine legs in half for vanity, let me know!

I've done the surgery. I never told anyone about it and never will. Simple as that, your problem is now solved.
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« Reply #19 on: September 11, 2023, 01:17:35 PM »

Another guy who hasn't done the surgery having a strong opinion. This surgery is not on the same level as a nose job or a hair transplant, and you know that!

There's no reason to let a stranger know about such a topic since it's now irreversible, it'll absolutely do nothing for your own peace.

If she's a good woman, which means most women, she wouldn't even know what to do with your confession beside knowing you used to be insecure, bored or absolutely insane.
Loss-loss situation, and you don't win any points, neither with God nor yourself.

OP I'm not saying your question isn't valid, but that you're not gonna do yourself a favor, take it with you to the grave.
You don't have Achondroplasia or dwarfism, if your children can stand, run and walk, you're good.

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Re: How do you tell your future wife/gf you were 5 inches shorter before?
« Reply #20 on: September 11, 2023, 01:30:11 PM »

Another guy who hasn't done the surgery having a strong opinion. This surgery is not on the same level as a nose job or a hair transplant, and you know that!
I've done LL. You are getting push back on your insistence that there's some sort of moral obligation to disclose LL. Your question of how to tell is fine. Your insistence that it's somehow wrong to not tell is what's absurd and generating critical responses. Bottom line, you come across like you are terminally blue pilled and don't understand how women interact with men. You do you. Perhaps post about how you told your gf and how things turned out after doing so. That would be more productive than trying to convince others they should feel obligated to be open about LL. They are not being unethical keeping LL secret. That's your misconception. You are delusional if you think women don't hide things from their bf or husband. Not trying to hurt your feelings but you are so off base with all this you seem like you are just trolling us tbh. Again if you feel guilty and the need to tell your gf then go for it, you do you, I'm not trying to convince you not to be blue pilled.
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Re: How do you tell your future wife/gf you were 5 inches shorter before?
« Reply #21 on: September 11, 2023, 01:47:38 PM »

The fact that you say that ll is like gender change surgery means how disturbed you are. It is just a cosmetic surgery and nothing like gender changing. It is the same as a nosejob or boobjob. Might ne more complex and stuff but from an ethical and moral standpoint it is the same as those two.
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« Reply #22 on: September 11, 2023, 02:46:10 PM »

The fact that you say that ll is like gender change surgery means how disturbed you are. It is just a cosmetic surgery and nothing like gender changing. It is the same as a nosejob or boobjob. Might ne more complex and stuff but from an ethical and moral standpoint it is the same as those two.
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« Reply #23 on: September 11, 2023, 05:31:31 PM »

Shortisnotfun. Your're so stupid to listen to. First of all I'm going to have the surgery done early November, and surgeons in the world ain't allowed to have an opinion either since they haven't done it? Second of all everybody is allowed to have a opinion about a given topic, and if you can't tolerate someone having a different opinion then you shouldn't use this forum. My arguments are based on the research I have done for more than a year now and just using basic logic, not with fear like many men. I have told my girlfriend and she's going with me, and has supported me from the start. If your're in a relationship with a girl who don't support your goals and don't understand your desires / goals in life then leave ASAP...
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Re: How do you tell your future wife/gf you were 5 inches shorter before?
« Reply #24 on: September 11, 2023, 05:36:18 PM »

Shortisnotfun. Your're so stupid to listen to. First of all I'm going to have the surgery done early November, and surgeons in the world ain't allowed to have an opinion either since they haven't done it? Second of all everybody is allowed to have a opinion about a given topic, and if you can't tolerate someone having a different opinion then you shouldn't use this forum. My arguments are based on the research I have done for more than a year now and just using basic logic, not with fear like many men. I have told my girlfriend and she's going with me, and has supported me from the start. If your're in a relationship with a girl who don't support your goals and don't understand your desires / goals in life then leave ASAP...

Who are you doing your surgery with? You can reply in DM if you want.
In any case good luck
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Re: How do you tell your future wife/gf you were 5 inches shorter before?
« Reply #25 on: September 11, 2023, 05:37:04 PM »

My current partner had a nose that was not to her liking, she decided to have a rhinoplasty and some time later I introduced her to my family and we never mentioned the surgery, they made comments like her "nose" was very pretty, but she never mentioned that she had surgery, neither did I, it is not necessary.... Why? because people unconsciously underestimate people who have surgery and when the results are not natural they just don't give them the value. It's like the guy who is 5'10" and they say "Wow, he looks so cute this tall" but if they find out that he used to be 5'7", they will simply say ""Ah, he looks good, but he has surgery"" unfortunately people are like that. I am going to increase my height, about 6 cm. only my partner will know, she is the one who is going to take care of me, the rest of my family doesn't have to know, there are things that don't need to be revealed to the public, and that doesn't make you a bad person.

Yeah try doing that with a woman.  Shes going to open that big fat mouth of hers and tell the "committee of women" like they all do.  That will include her mother, sister, best friends, and probably other random people. Women are by nature gum flappers.  Men can just not tell anyone something and not care.

That being said...5 inches is an absurd amount of height.  If you do 5 inches you should expect everyone to know about it.
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Re: How do you tell your future wife/gf you were 5 inches shorter before?
« Reply #26 on: September 11, 2023, 05:58:23 PM »

The whole package is important.
If height was objectively speaking your visually worst attribute, it's natural wanting to raise height to the same level as your other characteristics.

Just mention is nonchalantly, as it should be, that you gained a good amount of height just because you wanted and because it was possible.

Outsiders seem to mock LL because they think it's painful af, but it's like any other operation, it hurts when you wake up, and when you rest it's as good as painless.
And because it seems like a very hard thing to achieve they are making the argument, that you really try hard for some underlying reason. But just because it requires time, does not mean someone is inherently a tryhard in this whole process.

Preferably you have more than that going for you, so that it can blend in naturally to you being someone who just wants to achieve things in life more than the average, and it was one part of many.
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« Reply #27 on: September 15, 2023, 03:31:50 PM »

Thats why proportionmaxxers keep on winning. In case anybody is wondering, taking the secret to your grave, is the only valid solution. As for the rest, use your mind to rationalize all the rest.
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