I'm new to this forum and am not familiar with posting rules or decorum so I apologize ahead of time if this isn't the right place to do this.
Brief bio. I'm 166 cm, 22, white, male, living in Toronto. I've been aware of limb lengthening for a few months now but have never seriously considered doing it until recently (just made this acct today). My height has always been a sticking point for me but I only became extremely self-conscious when I turned 18 and began college. Now, it's all I ever think about.
I internalize my problems, as any good Irishman does, which means I haven't told anyone, not even my family, that this is bothering me. When people bring it up, which isn't often, I brush it off and try my best to project indifference because I'm petrified of being perceived as sensitive and weak. I suspect I'm depressed, though I can't be sure because the thought of seeing a therapist scares me more than anything else.
I've been wearing lifts since I turned 18. They take me up to about 170.5 cm. It's really helped but a little too much so because now I can't go outside without them and they really fk up my feet. It's certainly not a long-term solution and frankly, I'm embarrassed of them.
I really want to do this procedure but a few significant barriers stand in the way. The first and probably most insurmountable is the cost. The only doctor that does this surgery in Canada is Dr. Marie Gdalevitch and she charges about $90,000 for the precice nail option. That's not including living expenses and other miscellaneous costs. I have only a couple of thousand dollars saved up, I'm working part-time at a slightly above minimum wage job and my parents aren't rich by any means. I have a 725 credit score so I think I can get a personal loan but I'm not sure for how much. Given how bad my problem is, I honestly wouldn't mind paying off an obscene debt for the next 10 to 15 years of my life. Luckily though, I live with my parents and don't pay rent. I could conceivably save up to $20k over the next 5-6 months. Still, the cost is pretty steep for me.
Secondly and maybe more importantly, I have no idea how I'm gonna explain a sudden growth spurt to my family. Like I said earlier, I can't tell them about any of this. If I get this surgery, they can't ever know about it. Also why I can't ask them for financial aid. My parents have an extreme phobia of surgeries, especially ones that are purely for cosmetic reasons and would not allow it. My brother would lose all respect for me, I think. The only cover story I could think to come up with is that I went away on a humanitarian aid trip to some third-world country to build houses and teach English or some and the radical change in diet and lifestyle gave way to a miraculous growth spurt. Even then, I don't think they'd buy it.
Thirdly and, oddly enough, the least concerning is the health risks. This might be burying the lede somewhat but my ideal height increase is somewhere between 6-7 cm. I say 6-7 because I'm fine with being either 172 cm or 173 cm but I will choose whichever is the least harmful to my health and the easiest to recover from. I haven't done much research on this procedure but from what little I have read, it seems like anything about 5 cm is going to come with additional complications and risk. Can anyone who knows more about this tell me the margin of difference is between 6 and 7 cm in terms of ease of recovery and risk of complications?
Sorry for the length. Again, I don't know if this is the appropriate place to post this so please let me know if it isn't. I know I haven't really asked any direct questions. I guess I'd just like to hear from people who were in a similar position as I am now and how they were able to overcome financial and logistical challenges. Perhaps some advice on how I should prepare for this procedure ahead of time or what type of procedure I should go for. I know there is femur lengthening and tibia lengthening, not sure which is better for someone like me.
Thanks in advance to anyone who replies.