I am new to this forum and actually can't start a new thread, so I thought I would just add to this thread. I recently completed limb lengthening (it has been about 11 months since my initial operation) and I gained in total around 7 cm on my tibias through an external fixation method. I do not want to disclose my doctor (for personal reasons), even though I feel that he is an excellent doctor.
I would just like to add to anyone seriously considering this procedure, to give it a second, third, twentieth consideration. The reason I say this is that before actually undergoing the operation, LL was all that I thought about for about three to four years of my life. It consumed me to the point that I knew that I needed to get it done. And eventually, I did get it done, but despite how desperately I thought that I needed it pre-LL (and how much I actually sacrificed to get it), I actually regret it to this day post-LL. I will explain why.
It's only been 11 months since my operation, and I am actually recovering very well relative to most patients, but I still have regrets. I do think that the primary source of my regrets stems from the fact that I actually changed myself to succumb to the perceived "pressures" of society. This makes me feel very weak and in a sense makes me feel more insecure than I was before my operation. I could have and should have just accepted who I was before the operation and found a way to live happily. Honestly, my life was really good before LL. I was already very athletic, well-proportioned and would get daily comments on how great I looked. Sure, I was pretty short and definitely did have some instances where my height got in the way, but I feel that I magnified these issues in my head because all I thought about was height 24/7. In retrospect, these situations were very minor and only became a big deal because of how I viewed and handled the situations. After doing LL, I have realized that yes height is important, but no one really gives a fk other than those who have height neurosis, which admittedly is a very small minority. Girls will DEFINITELY overlook your height if you are able to overlook it. Girls really value true self-confidence more than anything else and conversely are really turned off by men who have insecurities. Girls are very sharp and pick up on these subtleties very quickly.
It goes without saying that I was really obsessed with how I looked before LL and I think it was honestly my vanity and greed that pushed me to actually have my LL done: to really perfect my appearance. This brings me the second reason why I regret it. I don't think that I look as good as I did before. Truthfully, I don't feel proportional. I think my proportions were quite perfect before LL with the perfect build for my height, but now after lengthening 7 cm, my proportions seem out of balance. I can tell how differently people treat me these days compared to how people treated me before my LL. Strangely, people treated me much better before LL than they do now. Not to sound overly vain, but I get the sense that I was much more attractive than I thought I was before I had my LL done because people just aren't as receptive to me these days. Maybe it is because they can sense my not giving a fk these days, but I think at least some of it has to do with how I look. I now appear overly skinny and this is accentuated by the fact that my quads have not even gained 50% of the mass that I had before LL. I will admit that once my quads fill out that I will probably look more normal, and it has only been 11 months since my operation, but I have no idea when that will even happen. Who knows, maybe I'll be happier when my proportions begin to balance out, but at the moment, I do not feel normal because I do not look quite normal yet. Proportions really matter!! LL really does take a long time. It definitely takes years, and not months like some people say.
If you have questions, ask away.
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