you have had an interest in women who are so particular about height. ur into that demographic. And after that you decide to do leg length surgry to improve urself. But your not proud of it and want to hide it (like most). so you will go back to one of those ladies and they will like you for your height among other things. but they do not know about leg length surgery.
do you see the stark contrast. the same type of ladies who would stand away from u to not be associated with a short guy now like you bcoz your not short. but that happened bcoz of leg lengt hsurgery which they do NOT know about.
Do you REALLY think its possible to keep this a life long secret? like can you imagine being married to someone like that for 20 years all along knowing that if she found out she would leave u right away? And its not some fbi classified document. a whole bunch of people have interacted with you during your procedure. if the internet did not exist you could have moved away from las vegas and wished to never receieve a letter about this. But the internet dude. Its like your right next to the whole world.
I only mean to make you think this through friend.
Yeah, I guess in a way you could say it's my fault, but I can't choose who I'm attracted to. I only find skinny girls in their early 20's attractive and they are pretty much all height queens. Of course, the severity of their height preferences still falls within a range. The topic of height was only a small part of my interactions with these girls even at 169cm. Most of the time it doesn't come up because it's really not that big of a part of daily life. It's only because I have height dysphoria that it even bothers me when it does come up. I'm sure at 177cm I can find a girl that won't care about my height at all and then I don't have to ever think about height or have any of these types of interactions again.
Based on other posters on here who finished lengthening long ago, after getting CLL you will eventually internalize your height. You'll feel like you were always 8cm taller and you'll forget about being short. Your legs will recover and your scars will fade and you won't be reminded that you had surgery before. There won't be any novelty in having a taller perspective because you'll be used to it and at that point you'll just be a taller guy both physically and mentally. Most of the people who reach this point have long since moved on from this forum and I bet they never think about height or LL in their daily lives. It's not hard to keep the procedure a secret. I haven't interacted with anyone that I know well since I had the procedure and I don't plan to until my gait is normal. HIPAA laws prevent any medical professionals from revealing your medical history. Scars from internals aren't that big and will fade away over time. Once the rods are out and the thicker bones shrink back to normal even an X-ray won't reveal that you had the surgery. I fail to see how anyone would find out if I didn't tell them.
I mean, think about it this way. I've dated enough girls that I've encountered more than one set of breast implants. They certainly don't feel as good as the real thing, but it's definitely better than being flat (especially if the surgeon is good) which is kind of the female equivalent of being short. If women could get breast implants that felt 100% natural and were imperceivable to men I bet many more would get them and I don't think any guys would be complaining whether the girl had real ones or not. In fact, a lot of guys don't mind breast implants at all even if they know the girl has them.
I believe you're thinking way too much into this.
Never heard of such incidents in Europe especially while in a relationship. Over here girls can often reject a guy for the height but they wont down right insult them and say it to their face, they will politely decline. You should have told that girl your ex had a nicer rack or something and observed the reaction haha.
Yeah, European girls are probably nicer about height than American ones. I can't really see myself living in Europe though. I would consider Asia if I can get one of those cushy expat jobs, but over there they might even be more picky about height than here
Damn! You definitely seem to have run into a bevy of shallow, caddy b*itches it would seem. I totally agree that we are all, as they say, prisoners of our own experiences and I totally respect that and accept that everyone who does CLL has reasons that are significant enough for them and that aren’t the same reasons that I would want to undergo CLL. Anyways, I found your post to be very thought provoking and informative. At the end of the day, I think everyone who goes through the CLL journey (and I am not in that category - yet), does it, and should do it, for their own reasons and not for anyone else. I myself have been very lucky - on most fronts. I have a spouse who I have been married to for a long time; I have 2 wonderful children, a fantastic job, most everything I want, but still want to undertake the CLL journey for my own reasons. At its essence, perhaps some could just chalk it up to greed and I suppose I could see that misperception. After all, I am 5’7” (171.5 cm morning height) and that is comparatively lucky in the height department as opposed to others. Yet, I still want to go through with CLL - but just for myself and to take it to the next level on all other fronts. Could I live without it and have a very fine life? Absolutely. But, could I do it and find that my new height (179 cm hopefully) eliminates my height dysphoria altogether - forever - and I never have to measure myself both figuratively and literally every day for the rest of my life? Absolutely! So, maybe everyone has different experiences and thinks of primary motivators that are different, but at some level the primary motivator and take away perspective seems to be similar if not the same: self improvement and making the impossible now possible. Thanks for the thought provoking posts.
I agree that once you have height dysphoria it would be difficult for it to go away no matter how content you were in other areas of your life, especially once you know CLL is possible. It really is a Pandora's Box in this aspect. I personally don't think my height dysphoria was bad enough outside of dating to get CLL for, so if I had gotten married I
should have been able to convince myself not to get CLL and then slowly forgotten about my dysphoria. I believe this because whenever I was in a long term relationship I would not think about CLL very much. Since first learning about CLL there have been periods of years where I wouldn't even come to this forum. It's when I'm single and interacting with a ton of girls that my height moves to the forefront of my mind because I have to deal with it more frequently.