I think you may be too naïve or idealistic. Humans are not as advanced or civilized as you think. Most people don't live, they mere exist and follow their basic biological programming. I never said that it was correct to value humans based on their physical appearance, but I am saying that it's how the world works. Me, you, and everyone else on this forum could agree that it's not how things should be, but that's not going to change reality. A few centuries of philosophy is not going to overwrite millions of years of evolution in the visual cortex of our brains. While we can't change the world, we can change our place in it by lengthening our legs to fit into better, which is why this forum exists. You can say this is an LL forum and only for LL, but I've been here for a long time and people on here have discussed many topics related to LL and attractiveness to the opposite sxx is one of the big ones.
Human interactions, like anything else given a large enough population, are driven by the law or large numbers. There are always outliers, but most people end up dating someone at least somewhat similar to themselves in level of physical attractiveness. I think it can be clearly understood from my post that I was referring to patterns of behaviors among groups of people and not setting an absolute set of rules that no one can bypass. You can say that attractiveness is not the only important thing in finding a romantic partner and I can say that an air tank isn't the only important thing when scuba diving. Both statements are technically true, but neither has a purpose. Besides, I never said my goal is to find a romantic partner. Nobody needs LL to do that. I want to find the best romantic partner available to me, otherwise it wouldn't be worth the time and money to invest in LL.
Everyone loves to claim that they're unique or special, but the truth is most people are not. You might feel that each girl you date is different, but once you date enough of them you'll see some clear patterns emerge. If not after 10 or 20, then definitely by 100 or 200. You should be able to fit them into a distribution at that point and compare that to the general population to see how you're doing on quality. Don't get me wrong though, men are just as bland. Working out, getting LL, etc. are all things we do so we can transform ourselves into the image of a conventionally attractive man. Women are just as shallow as men when it comes to appearance (in fact some would argue even more so than men.) Whether or not she's attracted to you is mostly determined before you even open your mouth. I suppose after the first impression you can still change your standing with her, but you're already walking uphill or downhill at that point. I think most people on here understand this instinctively, which is why LL has so much value to men.
Just because someone has a family already doesn't make them instantly asxxual. You can still want to be more attractive for your spouse. Besides, divorces do happen, and at a pretty high rate in the western world. It's best to be prepared for anything.
Calm down that sounds much like a teenage angst rant.
Humans are individually different. Yes, I agree that the vast majority of humans are pretty damn similar to gorillas in a zoo going through their everyday lives. However, there are those who are further down the rabbit hole of intellectualism. You can choose which people you surround yourself with. Do you really want those shallow idiots who judge you by unchangeable traits?
And don't get started on brain stuff, you know what's the one special brain anatomy thing for humans? The enlarged growth of the parieto-temporal lobe. It actually grows over the insula in humans. you can see this type of evolution in other grand apes but in humans it's the most distinctive. What comes with this? Advanced speech, communication, and sociology (primarily). Thus, one can argue that for us the complexity of communication is far more important in sxxuality too.
See, this sounds like a teen talking about "the meaning of life in a biological way is just fking
". The truth is, well yes, but actually no. Humans are supposed to be K-type reproductive species, which means their meaning of life is actually to RAISE their offspring, because it favors quality over quantity. That's also the best thesis as of now for the reason for homosxxuality (homosxxuals are determined to "help raise relative's offspring").
I think you should invest your money to feel better about yourself, gain more self worth, self esteem, in public situations or when under people. That will absolutely help you find a partner. and if you are below X type of percentile (probably 5'5 and below?), I agree that a really low height makes it HARD to find a partner so I see that this is a motivation of course.
See, I agree with the partner thing though, the first impression of looks is important, but it is indeed subjective!!! never forget that. If you see someone, you will always have them unconsciously "scanned" if they are "your type" or not. This however can vary so much. For example, probably bc of my history of height-related mental illness, I would want a girl who is tall (6ft and above ideally, not that uncommon in my country btw). All of my friends say though that this would be a "red flag" for them. Most men want small or average girl, max the same height as them. Some of my friends even have a kink for "petite" girls. But a taller girlfriend? No way! For most of them at least, but for me it would be good. Even if I'd lengthen to 6'7 I'd prefer girls who are 6'7 and above lol. Maybe it's a fetish thing.
But see, it can vary and not all beauty norms are 100% true. Especially things like tan (which I absolutely dislike, pale is better
) or hairstyle etc,. but ironically, the universally important thing is height, maybe it represents a genome that was important in evolution, who knows.
But maybe you are right and more people are only in for the sxxual aspects of LL, I am not though I do this for myself, not for anyone else, not to find a girlfriend or to be more attractive to girls (I couldn't stand when many girls would try to sxxually approach me anyways ugh. Just want a good one and be happy that's it).
oh and I forgot, about the moral dilemma. Morality is what advances in a progressing civilization. See how much different the world is now in comparison to medieval times. This is because collective morality is progressing in a sentient species. without any morale, a human-like species would destroy itself (which might eventually turn around and happen though). only very different species like a borg-like hive mind could progress and work. However, this just might be a theory of mine. And advanced humans judge no one by their looks anymore, eg. see how you would never hate a friend or family member because of their "lower than average" looks, right?. (we can't unchanged our inner program of
mating preference though, you are right about that)