Topic: Tinder Date (Read 2837 times)

Frogger · « **on:** January 15, 2021, 02:49:30 AM »

Just had a tinder date last night and this only reaffirmed my desire to get LL done.

We had good chemistry over text and she was definitely into my looks since we matched; she even told me "how tf are you single" over text.

Fast forward to date time and we grab lunch and everything is going well-- I'm being very social and charismatic and everything seems to be going fantastic.

Later that night, I message her to say that I had a fun time and was wondering if she'd like to go on another date. I get hit back with something along the lines of "I think we should just be friends." Idk, but my gut tells me that height had to be the deciding factor as all variables were under control / going fantastic beforehand.

I'm not even that short (5'7 lol) and she was probably 2 inches shorter.

This incident just re-affirmed my desire to get rid of this petty burden that even exists. The fact that I can be killing it in other aspects yet have this small thing be such a deciding factor hurts. I'm sure not all girls care about height but just the fact that it can be such a make-or-break factor in some instances is a nuisance in itself.

Apart from girls, the fact that it affects the way some people treat you sucks in itself too. I remember multiple staff glancing over me and treating me like a non-important customer as soon as I arrived and requested to make reservations.

Oh well, chin up and carry on, lol. Thanks for your ears, friends.

tallmen · « **Reply #1 on:** January 15, 2021, 04:21:39 AM »

How much height gain are you planning for?

Frogger · « **Reply #2 on:** January 15, 2021, 04:48:33 AM »

Would be more than happy with 2 inches to be honest. That would put me right at average @ 5'9

MakeMeTallAF · « **Reply #3 on:** January 15, 2021, 06:22:51 AM »

I'm about 5'7.5 aiming for 5'9.5. I definitely do think height does hold you back a bit at this height, but I'm not sure if it's a deciding factor on whether she likes you or not as long as you're taller than her. Most girls are not that shallow.

If you're just looking to hook up though maybe wear lifts next time and see if it makes a difference. I don't think it really will.

Iron_Man · « **Reply #4 on:** January 15, 2021, 06:25:35 AM »

It's not like she didn't want to date you just because of your height. Maybe you only talked about everyday things and didn't touch her at all? And she just wasn't sexually attracted to you. I had similar problems when I first started dating girls. Height is certainly important, but if a girl has already come to you on a date, then most likely height for her is not the main thing

6CMFemurs · « **Reply #5 on:** January 15, 2021, 08:55:09 AM »

Not sure how old you are, but that will happen both pre and post LL. You win some, you lose some.

Kal el · « **Reply #6 on:** January 15, 2021, 12:03:35 PM »

Hey bro....i understand ur concern with the height but i think she was among the shallow ones who want the guy to sart with a number 6....coz she was already shorter thn u....and considering u ticked all the other boxes....not everyone is like that so chill....if u wanna do something abt ur height thn first research on it and do it for urself....not for shallow individuals like this.

Arcon · « **Reply #7 on:** January 15, 2021, 01:05:34 PM »

Hi,

Maybe it was something else that she didn't like about you during your date. If it all went so well, you could ask her politely but directly what that might have been ("as an advice/ feedaback" for your next date).

Jackieeechan · « **Reply #8 on:** January 15, 2021, 03:50:41 PM »

I think this has nothing to do with height. I am 5'6 and I have plenty of girls in my tinder and ashley madison profile. And I also mentioned the height there as 5'7.

Gman23 · « **Reply #9 on:** January 15, 2021, 08:16:17 PM »

Lol your 5ft7 imagine being 5ft2/3...

If the girl truly liked, loved you she would have been fine with you not being too tall...

It’s not always about the height brother, this generation is pretty messed up nothing is the same and specially woman... you can blame your height for getting rejected but I believe it was something else ...

I mean height still is important but Even if you were taller it might not have worked out still ...
Girls love to make guys feel special and as if their the deal “ how the Fck your single” to make you feel special and then next min they treat you like absolute shxt

It’s just life man no ones the same any more...

Gman23 · « **Reply #10 on:** January 15, 2021, 08:18:21 PM »

If the girl cannot love you at your lowest imagine if you end up crippled in an accident or something... true love doesn’t love from the eyes but the heart

Longer · « **Reply #11 on:** January 15, 2021, 09:47:06 PM »

Quote from: Gman23 on January 15, 2021, 08:18:21 PM

If the girl cannot love you at your lowest imagine if you end up crippled in an accident or something... true love doesn’t love from the eyes but the heart

accident or something... like CLL?

10cmOnTibiaOrGTFO · « **Reply #12 on:** January 16, 2021, 12:00:57 AM »

5'7 is where 50% of women will accept you statistically.
not sure if its worth going through the struggle for 2 inches buddy.
a lot of money and time wasted and HEALTH. you will not be 100% after LL.
You have to quit your job, restart your life. maybe you will die or be crippled, anything can happen. at 5'7 its absurd to do this and take so many risks when there are enough women out there. work on your self esteem. it is ABSURD at 5'7. wear 1 inch shoe lifts and thicker soles, nike air max if you re so insecure about your height.

Especially, you are literally talking about a tinder date. a meat market for easy hookups, you re taking this way too serious lmao

Gman23 · « **Reply #13 on:** January 16, 2021, 02:30:04 AM »

Quote from: Longer on January 15, 2021, 09:47:06 PM

accident or something... like CLL?

Well to be specific anything could happen, could get hit by a car maybe and if your girl cared about you truly she’d still be there even if you end up being 3ft without any legs

Frogger · « **Reply #14 on:** January 16, 2021, 07:22:52 AM »

@10cmOnTibiaOrGTFO:
I mean, to each his own. I would like to get this done with either Paley/Roz so the chances of something happening terribly wrong are slim, assuming I keep up with my physical therapy and lengthen a safe amount on the femurs (2 inches, maybe 2.5 max if all is going well). It seems like the surgery has advanced so much where it is no longer as barbaric as it once used to be merely a decade ago where you would have people going to India to be bedridden for many months on end with an external fixator cage and legs littered with unsightly keloid scar wounds from the pin sites. Now, I can get it at world class facilities with highly experienced doctors, fully weight bear, and have it done internally, allowing me more mobility and flexibility while having a much speedier recovery time / return to normalcy.

With the new breakthrough of the Stryde nail, I'd realistically only be out for a half a year or so, and even then, I'd be fully weight bearing and could continue my work remotely and some daily activities.

I think making that leap from slightly under average but still short to plain old average (in my country) would be such a huge thing for me. I've been struggling with height for over 6 years now, it didn't just happen because of a tinder date lol.

ghkid2019 · « **Reply #15 on:** January 16, 2021, 07:38:54 AM »

Highly recommend to just ignore whether others think you should or shouldn't do LL. You know what to do. Tune out the noise.

10cmOnTibiaOrGTFO · « **Reply #16 on:** January 16, 2021, 05:26:19 PM »

true, paley is one of the best on this planet but he is expensive as hell.
if you have the money sure, go for it but the difference will barely be noticable.
you re better off investing your money into something else and raising your attractivity level like that.
whats more attractive to women a guy thats average height or a guy thats slightly below average driving a porschee? guess whos getting more pussy

Frogger · « **Reply #17 on:** January 16, 2021, 07:06:20 PM »

@10cmOnTibiaOrGTFO:

I think we all know the probable answer to that, which is why we are all here on this forum.

Thanks for your input.

Kal el · « **Reply #18 on:** January 16, 2021, 07:25:50 PM »

I get wht ur saying but instead of avg. Put 6ft and + and in place of below avg. put avg....and ur statement becomes absolutely concrete....there is actually a certain height threshold more or less tht woman prefer.

Mule · « **Reply #19 on:** January 16, 2021, 09:56:50 PM »

As a limb lengthening veteran with a similar starting height, I feel like I am well placed to comment here. I had my operation nearly 2 years ago, started at 169cm (5’6.5) ended at ~176cm (5’9.3).

I think first off here, you have absolutely no idea if it was because of your height. If she didn’t say it was you can’t assume that it was, that’s your insecurity latching onto it. Even if it was to do with your height though, it doesn’t matter. She cares about that, ok, but there are many, many girls who don’t.

I got rejected before and I still get rejected now on tinder dates. I sometimes reject people. Everyone gets rejected, because dating and relationships are very nuanced and we all have different physical and personality features we look for which are also influenced by our environments growing up. Granted I feel like overall I get less rejection (although that could be tied to a confidence thing) but I think for me the important part about getting the operation was knowing that even if I get rejected now, I *know* it’s not because I’m short. It’s something else - even if it’s that I’m not tall (because I’m average.) but that’s what the operation mainly did for me and I don’t regret it one bit.

By all means go for the operation if you have the money, time, and willpower, but it’s not you know absolutely essential to have a fulfilling life - and it’s important to go in with the mindset that this doesn’t magically grant you immunity from rejection, some people will always reject you for one reason or another, because not everyone is a perfect match.

Happy to answer any questions you have!

ghkid2019 · « **Reply #20 on:** January 16, 2021, 10:26:54 PM »

Quote from: 10cmOnTibiaOrGTFO on January 16, 2021, 05:26:19 PM

true, paley is one of the best on this planet but he is expensive as hell.
if you have the money sure, go for it but the difference will barely be noticable.
you re better off investing your money into something else and raising your attractivity level like that.
whats more attractive to women a guy thats average height or a guy thats slightly below average driving a porschee? guess whos getting more pussy

Difference is, Frogger will eventually get a porsche if he wanted to. He has a good job and works hard for his money. He saved enough for LL at age 24 already. It's not like he can't get a porsche if he does LL, or vice versa. He's not broke and it's not like he won his money from a lottery with no employable skills. He can get both to be honest, do LL and drive a nice car.

Kal el · « **Reply #21 on:** January 17, 2021, 12:25:20 AM »

Yeah live a gr8 life and hook up with many 5'5 girls😎

MeanGoal · « **Reply #22 on:** January 17, 2021, 03:59:38 AM »

I’m skeptical that your height was the issue. You already listed your height on tinder before you met, so if she had a problem with your height, she would not have even contacted you to meet. For most women, at least 2 inches taller is sufficient.

Frogger · « **Reply #23 on:** January 17, 2021, 05:27:40 AM »

@Mule: Man, you make some fantastic points. Truth be told, I don't know 100% whether it was my height or not but I'm just assuming so given that I was under the impression that everything else was going well. I definitely don't think that getting the procedure done will make me immune to rejections but it would be so nice to not have to always resort to attributing them to height (either partially or completely)-- and I'm not just talking about romantic rejections here. Sure it would be nice to be tall, but I just want to be average in order to at least negate the possibility of height being a probable variable. I'd say that I'm fairly confident and have things going for me well in life but I just hate that tiny internal hesitation / fear of meeting someone new (romantically or platonically) and being worried that they will judge me for my height. I know that the probable cause is likely mindset but I know that this dysphoria is certainly solvable by physically removing it, so why not just eliminate the root cause, you know?

It's amazing to see fellow individuals like yourself who used to be in similar positions that I was in. I'm so happy to hear that you were able to get rid of the height factor!

If you don't mind, could you expand on how it has affected your like in other aspects from dating? Also, since you're 2 years post op, are your scars still visible, or do you think they'd be able to be completely invisible if laser scar removal was done?

@ghkid2019: You described my rationale perfectly

@MeanGoal: I didn't post my height on the App. I do look taller in pictures, however.

Futureller · « **Reply #24 on:** January 17, 2021, 08:05:53 AM »

I'm a similar height 5'7.5" looking to do the surgery as well to get 3 inches. People have different viewpoints. Point is to do what you wanna do because its your body and your life. I'm sure 99% it will make you happier. You'll be taller. Girls like taller guys better. Facts of life. In addition, YOU will be more comfortable in your skin and you WILL be more confident for that reason.

Granted yes height isn't everything there's short guys that get laid. But it is more of an uphill battle with lack of height. Dating should be fun not feel like work. If you got things wrong with you like lack of height, not saying lack of height is wrong but in the perception of girls in high demand, it tends to be the case, you will feel like dating is work, at least I do. Which is the reason I wanna do it so I can be closer to a comolete package and just feel like I can be myself and not feel pressure on a date as if I'm on a job interview not wanting to blow it with a chick I'm attracted to.

Mule · « **Reply #25 on:** January 17, 2021, 11:18:28 AM »

Sounds like a good mindset to me.

In other aspects I do feel more comfortable. Even going around the supermarket for example I feel more normal. I still get towered by other guys but it does help me to know I’m average. That was the thing for me, I knew where I was on the standard distribution and percentiles etc. But knowing I’m average does help me a lot.

In terms of scars, they’re barely viable (have been since the op really, my Dr. Was really good)
Here’s a picture of the top two on my left thigh:
https://imgur.com/gallery/OWbZzMc

10cmOnTibiaOrGTFO · « **Reply #26 on:** January 17, 2021, 12:16:04 PM »

to me most people here that are at least 5'7 have serious mental issues.
LL will not help you whatsoever, the mental disease is still in your head.
psychologists confirmed this long time ago -> height dysphoria.
blaming everything on height and justifying your failure. i cant get women because im short.
i dont have a career because im short.
sorry mate, i know plenty people that get laid daily. your definition of short is shallow, it doesnt make any sense. for some people on here anything below 6ft is short, others would be happy to be 5'7.
to me you are a pathetic loser that cant cope with the imperfection of your own look and guess what?
you will be the same loser after LL unless you were over 6ft where women will notice you for your superior height. natural selection buddy, women sort out the mentally ill and unhealthy.

Frogger · « **Reply #27 on:** January 17, 2021, 07:02:30 PM »

@10cmOnTibiaOrGTFO:
Wanting to go from sub-15th percentile to 50th percentile is delusional, huh? What, do you think that height neurosis is not allowed at some magic height threshold and that anyone displaying it has mental issues? Gtfo man, there are people here on this sub who are even 5'10+ but live in places like Northern Europe where the average is 6'0+. There's no magic number for height dysphoria to disappear; yes, it's a derivative of body dysmorphia and is all in your head, but getting rid of it from the root cause can (and often times does) expel the dysphoria once and for all. Who the hell are you to come on this forum and call people pathetic losers just because they're at your dream height and are nervous about being at that height? And for the record, my career is going fantastic and I'm willing to bet that my body count is scores higher than yours if you really want to bring that up; so yeah, I'd be happy to be the same "loser" after LL, albeit an inch or two taller. To reiterate, I'm not getting LL for women lmfao. I'm getting it solely for myself. Regards.

@Mule:
Wow, thanks so much for the scar pictures. I've always been worried that they might turn into keloids but those look fantastic and almost non-existent! I'm assuming they'll return once the rods have been removed but I'm sure they'll dissipate just as quickly as they did. I just read your post describing your procedure about 2 years ago. Glad everything turned out well, my friend. Once again, congrats.

Mule · « **Reply #28 on:** January 17, 2021, 07:13:36 PM »

Thanks Frogger. I wish you the best with everything, whatever decision you end up making. I’m here to answer any questions you have or even if you just want to chat

Have you told your family/friends about your desire to have this done?

Frogger · « **Reply #29 on:** January 17, 2021, 09:19:44 PM »

@Mule: Thanks Mule. I appreciate you reaching out and I'll definitely take you up on that offer. I sent you a PM!

kumbaya · « **Reply #30 on:** January 17, 2021, 10:53:31 PM »

I get your point, however I was recently on a trip in the US ( I am from argentina and my height is 5.4), with some friends of mine who are pretty average on our country (5´7 - 5´8) - these guys I have never heard of complaining about their height or not being able to get girls because of it, however they repeateadly said they all felt quite small in the US ( we where in NYC and North Carolina), I was able to see average guys where at least 2 inches taller than them, with many other being 4 o 5 inches taller.

Girls of course where much taller, I would dare say most of them as tall as my friends, according to what I saw and compared to my own height I would estimate white american women height for the US ( the parts I visited) is about 5´6

This being said I do understand people above 5´7 wanting to do this surgery if they are shorter than their local peers.
For me, gaining 7.5 - 8 cm will put me very close to my country average and make me very happy, but not near average for tallest countries.

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