Been getting a steady stream of PM's from people trying to decide if LL is right for them so I decided to create a Step by step framework on how to decide if you are a good candidate for LL.
LL was life changing for me but I'm a firm believer that if you are struggling with height neurosis LL should be the LAST RESORT in your journey towards resolution.
Step 1: Reflect on whether the core areas of your life outside of height (friends, family, career, wealth, romance, purpose etc.) are healthy. LL will NOT fix all of your problems. It can only fix height neurosis and enhance an already good life. If you're depressed or if you're not satisfied with your life beyond just your height, you will remain depressed and unsatisfied after LL and doing LL would be like pouring a glass of water into a forrest fire. Invest in YOURSELF first before you invest in lengthening your legs.
Step 2: Ask yourself why you are doing LL. Are you doing it for any one person or thing? Are you doing it because some random bimbo said you were short? Are you doing it because you think it'll get you a promotion at work? Other people's opinion of your height is none of your business. Those people don't matter. Forget them. Don't do this for anyone else other than you. Do it because you don't want to let height neurosis get in the way of you actualizing your fullest potential.
Step 3: Try to resolve your height neurosis through therapy before you consider LL. You might find that the source of your height neurosis is deeply rooted in other mental issues buried deep in your mind and seeing a therapist may provide you with a way of addressing it. Perhaps try meditation. These are healthier and far more economical ways to resolve height neurosis than LL.
Step 4: Ask yourself how important athleticism is to you. Results may vary but the large majority of LL patients who do > 5 cm in any segment will not recover 100% of their athleticism. You have to be at peace with sacrificing a considerable amount of athleticism. If competitive sports are a major part of your life you may want to reconsider LL.
Step 5: You wouldn't buy a car unless you test drove it first right? So don't do LL unless you do a tall trial run. Wear lifts for a couple months that puts you at your desired LL height. Try an inch, try two, then try three. See how it makes you feel. Happier, more content, in a state of nirvana? Or indifferent, or the same? Update your virtual identity with your desired LL height on your online dating profile and observe if it's made a meaningful difference in the dating world. You might be surprised.
Step 6: Don't worry about what other people will think or if they might notice you taller. I worried about this a lot before doing LL and it gave me a ton of anxiety and guess what.... after doing LL I realized it doesn't really matter, people don't really care about you as much as you think they do.
Step 7: Plan for the worst and hope for the best in the context of finances, your health, and timeline. If your operation is $100k, make sure you have at least $200k in savings. One thing is for certain with LL, it will not turn out how you planned. There will be unexpected costs, unexpected changes in recovery timeline, and at worst potential complications. At the very least this is a 6 month journey, a lot can happen in that time frame, you could lose a job, lose a romantic partner, lose friends, and you need to be ready for the world to change and move on as you lay in bed crippled with rods in your legs. Make sure you have money in the bank, liquid, you need to have at least a 12 month operating expense runway.
Step 8: Make sure you are mentally strong. This journey will test you in ways you never imagined. Beyond just the physical pain. There is the isolation. The solitude. Deep loneliness. Lack of sleep. It can break you down. You need to have the ability to shift your perspective when things get tough. It's a super power. I remember every time I hit a low point and was about to break down due to the excruciating pain and loneliness... I had to dig deep and shift my perspective towards expressing gratitude about how lucky I was to have the rare opportunity to get taller. This is not for the weak minded.
Deciding to do LL is a deeply personal one. It's a drastic decision towards fixing height neurosis and it should be the last resort to fixing height neurosis. Although I am very happy with my decision to do this I still believe prospective LL'ers need to deeply reflect and meditate on their decision to do LL before they make that decision. Best of luck to all!
Author
Topic: Diary: Stryde Femurs with Dr. Paley September 2019 (Read 47379 times)