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[Shortie]

I was talking to a girl friend and she is about 5'2 , we are just friends , and I don't think she is attractive at all but anyway she was like I broke up with my boyfriend today I told her oh ok sry then she said I want someone who has the same look as you and personality but he also has to be tall !!! I felt like   why the fk do u have to say that to me ! She changed my mood for the day and next cpl weeks too !

[Blackhawk]

Women can be cruel.  Next time tell her you would love to find a girl who is just like her.....except smart. 

[KiloKAHN]

Yeah it's annoying dealing with those comments out of nowhere. It's important to find ways to deal with frustration over this constructively but also call the person out on their open height bigotry.

[ChrisIsaak]

What's your height, if I may ask?

[Medium Drink Of Water]

"Tall" is what women say when they mean "rich" but don't want to sound like gold diggers. 

[Shortie]

I'm 5'7 she said exactly he also has to be tall like Eric our friend he is 5'10 or 5'11 no more

[ChrisIsaak]

"Tall" is what women say when they mean "rich" but don't want to sound like gold diggers. 

Hahaha    But nah man, it all depends on the age. If you're in your early 20's they don't care much about how rich you are, they care about your physique. The wealth factor comes in several years later.

[ChrisIsaak]

I'm 5'7 she said exactly he also has to be tall like Eric our friend he is 5'10 or 5'11 no more

What can I say man, her head is fked up. Tell her height doesn't matter in bed.

[Shortie]

Hahaha    But nah man, it all depends on the age. If you're in your early 20's they don't care much about how rich you are, they care about your physique. The wealth factor comes in several years later.

. This is very true

[Shortie]

What can I say man, her head is f**ked up. Tell her height doesn't matter in bed.

I couldn't say anything I just had to leave after what she said .

[ChrisIsaak]

I couldn't say anything I just had to leave after what she said .

Sometimes shorter girls can be more cruel than taller girls when it comes to a guy's height. Obviously I'm not blaming all short girls, a lot of them are lovely, but when a short girl wants a guy waaay taller then herself, I regard it as a complex. She might be too self-hating for some reason (might be unrelated to height), or just plain stupid, who knows. And just because she said that doesn't mean she absolutely wouldn't date a 5'7 guy. If you want to feel good about yourself again, I suggest listen to Estelle - American Boy immediately and pay attention to the lyrics   

[BilateralDamage]

What can I say man, her head is f**ked up. Tell her height doesn't matter in bed.

I don't think we should shame women for having a preference.  My preference is skinny women with curves.  My head isn't fked up, it's just what I desire.

While I agree it must suck to hear what you did shortie, you weren't interested in her and now you know you'll be her type after you get LL.  I don't think she was being cruel either, she's was being open with you since you both are friends.  You could tell her the same, you would date her if it wasn't for X.

[ChrisIsaak]

Yeah BD, you're right my friend. I shouldn't have shamed her. It's just that I've been in the same situation in the past and remembering it was a bit frustrating, to be honest. Ah man, you know what.. I should've done LL before college. That's my biggest regret. I'll probably go crazy enjoying "college life" when I get my masters degree because I was never able to sufficiently enjoy my undergrad years    Interesting by the way, I don't think I have a specific preference in women. Everything goes, whatever works 

[ChrisIsaak]

P.S:

This whole "preference" thing is a great topic for debate. For instance, what if this girl said "I only date white men, I don't date black men or Asian men". Would you equally respect it as a preference, or would it be racist? I think it would be an utterly racist and stupid thing to say, and I fail at respecting a preference like that. Now height, obviously, isn't as delicate a matter as race. But no one chooses to be born "white" or "short", we all get our share of the genetic lottery. Height isn't earned, it's given. So I have a hard time respecting her preference. The least I could say is that it's very shallow.

[Shortie]

Guys I don't care if some girls wanna date tall guys , the thing is why it's ok for girls to say stuff like that to me ? And it's not ok for me or any guy to say to any girl I would not date you cuz you are fat or short or etc ? ,,,,, it just hurts like hell when u hear things like that , and thanks all.

[ChrisIsaak]

Guys I don't care if some girls wanna date tall guys , the thing is why it's ok for girls to say stuff like that to me ? And it's not ok for me or any guy to say to any girl I would not date you cuz you are fat or short or etc ? ,,,,, it just hurts like hell when u hear things like that , and thanks all.

Last summer I went to a beach holiday with my best friend. (Okay, I had a crush on her for years but always kept silent about it). She already knew how much my stature hurt me psychologically and she knew all about my surgery plans. Yet she still said "I just met this guy over there, he's dark and TALL" and she also said " Yeah I went to bed with this other guy but nothing happened, I mean he's tall but he's just dumb". Needless to say, that day I got drunk and punched walls, I was covered in blood and was almost thrown to jail. So, um.. What can I say bro? Try not to take it too seriously and don't let it hurt you, it's not worth it. You deserve better. In brief... Learn from my mistakes 

[ChrisIsaak]

P.S: This is going to be cliche perhaps, but whenever I feel bad about myself or anything, I pinch myself and remind me of people living out on the streets, people with no access to clean water, people living in warzones. Then I don't feel good about myself but I realize how minor my problems really are. When you start feeling grateful for the things you have (no matter how hard it is to teach this to yourself) you begin to fix your mind as well.

[Shortie]

Last summer I went to a beach holiday with my best friend. (Okay, I had a crush on her for years but always kept silent about it). She already knew how much my stature hurt me psychologically and she knew all about my surgery plans. Yet she still said "I just met this guy over there, he's dark and TALL" and she also said " Yeah I went to bed with this other guy but nothing happened, I mean he's tall but he's just dumb". Needless to say, that day I got drunk and punched walls, I was covered in blood and was almost thrown to jail. So, um.. What can I say bro? Try not to take it too seriously and don't let it hurt you, it's not worth it. You deserve better. In brief... Learn from my mistakes 

damn bro that's some fked up   and thanks I will try to get it out of my head if I can . They need to understand we have feelings too .

[BilateralDamage]

Yeah BD, you're right my friend. I shouldn't have shamed her. It's just that I've been in the same situation in the past and remembering it was a bit frustrating, to be honest. Ah man, you know what.. I should've done LL before college. That's my biggest regret. I'll probably go crazy enjoying "college life" when I get my masters degree because I was never able to sufficiently enjoy my undergrad years    Interesting by the way, I don't think I have a specific preference in women. Everything goes, whatever works 

You know what, I take back the part though about her being not cruel when she said it.  That's a totally dck thing to do.  What if she was fat, he's not pointing out her physical flaws for no reason!

Btw Chris, I'm so happy for you man.  It makes me really happy to read that you're in a good mental state now and your life is going to just get better from here on out.   

[ChrisIsaak]

Thanks BD, hopefully post-LL everything will work out great for you as well buddy 

[Shortie]

Last summer I went to a beach holiday with my best friend. (Okay, I had a crush on her for years but always kept silent about it). She already knew how much my stature hurt me psychologically and she knew all about my surgery plans. Yet she still said "I just met this guy over there, he's dark and TALL" and she also said " Yeah I went to bed with this other guy but nothing happened, I mean he's tall but he's just dumb". Needless to say, that day I got drunk and punched walls, I was covered in blood and was almost thrown to jail. So, um.. What can I say bro? Try not to take it too seriously and don't let it hurt you, it's not worth it. You deserve better. In brief... Learn from my mistakes 

sorry about that bro , glad u came out of it ok and as I see u seem to be happy now after ur operation , u are almost 5'8 now if I can recall u know I notice something I never seen 5'8 guy been called short but when u get under 5'8 then everyone become to notice u are short , sry about the grammar i am not a native English speaker .

[Medium Drink Of Water]

What if she was fat, he's not pointing out her physical flaws for no reason!

Unfortunately, that's the female equivalent of being short.  Whatever we think of fat women, that's what women think of short men.  But that being said, I'd never say to a girl "I want someone just like you but not fat."  Wow, talk about not being considerate of another person's feelings.

[Wannabegiant]

Unfortunately, that's the female equivalent of being short.  Whatever we think of fat women, that's what women think of short men.  But that being said, I'd never say to a girl "I want someone just like you but not fat."  Wow, talk about not being considerate of another person's feelings.

i have a serious issue with this double standard, but i guess really this is how girls think.

I mean if a short guy is equivalent to a fat girl, then what about fat guys? Do fat guys get a pass if they are tall? what about short fat guys are they double screwed? I mean something is seriously wrong with the world if that is how people think, unless fat guys get less   than fat girls do?

[ChrisIsaak]

I think on a visual level, it's much worse to be a fat guy than to be a fit short guy. Jonah Hill is 5'7. Compare his "before and after" weight loss photos and you'll understand. Although on the big picture, being short is actually worse because becoming taller is much more difficult than becoming thinner, obviously.

[Medium Drink Of Water]

i have a serious issue with this double standard, but i guess really this is how girls think.

I mean if a short guy is equivalent to a fat girl, then what about fat guys? Do fat guys get a pass if they are tall? what about short fat guys are they double screwed? I mean something is seriously wrong with the world if that is how people think, unless fat guys get less s**t than fat girls do?

I think yes, fat guys get less s**t than fat girls do.  If a fat guy is tall, has money, and has a good personality, his "market value" isn't actually that bad.

[Wannabegiant]

I think yes, fat guys get less s**t than fat girls do.  If a fat guy is tall, has money, and has a good personality, his "market value" isn't actually that bad.

I guess youre right.. but when you say has money, do you mean really really rich? or just upper class wealthy? Because with enough money all else becomes very insignificant, i think a very wealthy short but fit man has about equal market value as a very wealthy taller fat man does.

And there are sugarmommies too, fat and/or old ladies who use there wealth to get "boy toys". Its probably not as common as the opposite but i think that is because of cultural norms and not because men are less likely to go for that kind of relationship instinctively.

And in either case, fat should never equal short imo, one can be fixed naturally with hard work (being fat is often just a sign of being lazy) while being short is mainly bad luck. Even with a genepool from tall family members one can end up short.

[kunta kinte]

I was talking to a girl friend and she is about 5'2 , we are just friends , and I don't think she is attractive at all but anyway she was like I broke up with my boyfriend today I told her oh ok sry then she said I want someone who has the same look as you and personality but he also has to be tall !!! I felt like s**t why the f**k do u have to say that to me ! She changed my mood for the day and next cpl weeks too !

bro, let me tell you from experience. she does not care about height, she was testing you. every girl does it but her type of testing seems to have hurt you a lot. dont let it get to you. stay confident and act like you dont care(even though you do) and she'll be suk on that tip of your very soon. at the end of the day you can always get LL!

[srimech123]

I know that feeling, which is why we are all so glad that there is something to fix this problem called Leg Lengthening.  Stay patient and then we'll be taller very soon