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[onemorefoot]

I dont find the way to tell him, my mom is even helping me to save money, but dad is the problem.Staying in another country until I can walk more or less would be well( the most of the people who do 7 cm internal femurs can walk in 5 months mithout crutches) not considering potential complications.I think that when I finish university, when I am 23 years I will go for some months and return when I am off crutches, what do you recommend?

[Penguinn]

My dad's the one who found out about LL for me. Before him I used to think LL = Chinese torture devices

Edit: How tall are you? Yeah I wouldn't let my 5'9 son get his legs broken either.

[Alu]

You're young (in fact way to young to be thinking about this surgery), so he's going to be over-protective and think you're generally naive. Deal with it, it's what parents do. (I'm surprised it's your mom that is supportive... from my experience it was my mom who possed the biggest problem).

Don't bank on doing it after college BTW. Life doesn't work that way. Honestly, depending on your major/career, I wouldn't take a year long break after college. Seems off to employers. Also if you have to worry about loans, kiss that time frame goodbye. I'd rather save up for college and/or pay off my student loan debt first (would your parents really want you to focus your savings on needless surgery when it can be used to fund your studies?!): especially at your height (then again I wouldn't want LL at it...).

But if you want some more advice on it, don't talk to him about LL until you're actually done with college. It's stupid to talk about it when you're so far off and you should be concentrating your time on your studies; which will produce the income you need to go to a good doctor. In relation to that...

It does feel like you're not really realistic and rushing into it... which from past records... is pretty much the biggest downfall of many LLers: they cut corners, wanting to take the easy, cheap route, and end up with bad outcomes...

My 2 cents

[YourSpaceBoyfriend]

\Staying in another country until I can walk more or less would be well( the most of the people who do 7 cm internal femurs can walk in 5 months mithout crutches) not considering potential complications.

But you should, a lot of bad stuff can happen.

I find people that save up money just for LL stupid, u need to have some kind of saved up cash for complications or other problems to occur(and there ofter are).

[CCMidwest]

Edit: How tall are you? Yeah I wouldn't let my 5'9 son get his legs broken either.

Yeah, I wouldn't let him either. 5'9 is just a hair under average for most western white countries. It is a normal adult height for men. They don't get the "benefits" of being tall, but no disadvantages of short.

The biggest player I have ever known is 5'9 and runs a dating service for men. I know lots of rich guys, and most are between 5'9-5'11

There are a million ways to win in life at 5'9 without breaking your legs.

My own kids are girls though...and my oldest is actually worried she will be too tall.

[CCMidwest]

Honestly, depending on your major/career, I wouldn't take a year long break after college. Seems off to employers.

Being an employer myself, I'll chime in about this too.

This is absolutely true. When you get 500+ resumes for a single job opening, some of the first ones to go in the "no" pile are the ones with gaps in employment, especially if it is listed as being due to a medical problem. The reason is that medical issues is one of the leading causes for employee tardiness, absenteeism, and resignation.

[Deads]

I would just say I took a year off to travel, get some perspective and life experience.. There are far too many graduates who have spent their entire life with their head in a book, have no people skills and no clue about the world around them.

[onemorefoot]

Penguinn one year ago I was 172.7, now I am exactly 176 cm and I wont grow more than 176 based on my bone age of 18. I would like to be 183 cm, but I dont know it is a lot of sacrifice for this, but I really want taht height.

[onemorefoot]

And I plan to work online in the time I do the this procedure, using just my computer. Here there are people with a height of even 178 an want this surgery, so at 176 is not insane.

[Penguinn]

Penguinn one year ago I was 172.7, now I am exactly 176 cm and I wont grow more than 176 based on my bone age of 18. I would like to be 183 cm, but I dont know it is a lot of sacrifice for this, but I really want taht height.

No dad would allow their 176cm son to get LL.

[onemorefoot]

Maybe you think I am crazy, but if I do this procedure I will only go for 6 cm not 7 is a lot, so what do you think?

[Penguinn]

Maybe you think I am crazy, but if I do this procedure I will only go for 6 cm not 7 is a lot, so what do you think?

Honestly? I think it's not worth the time and money, complications and effort AT ALL and a 176cm guy has no requirement in hell for this surgery. But if you're hell bent, 6cms internal femurs usually means a great recovery.

[KiloKAHN]

The toll of other people somehow finding out you had cosmetic leg lengthening is probably higher when you're at a taller starting height. For really short guys a lot of people could probably understand why they'd put themselves through it, but for the ones with a taller starting height most would probably view them in the same vein as anorexic women who think they're fat or guys who never think they're big enough and start injecting synthol.

But if it's really that important to you then there's no reason you can't go for it. Just try and play it safe as much as possible with your doctor and financial padding in case any complications arise. It would probably be a good idea to see a therapist to see if maybe there's a deeper or unrelated reason for why you're unhappy with your body. Height might seem like that's the one thing you need to change in life but you might have just fooled yourself into thinking that that's what's wrong because it's the easiest feature to compare to others.

[YourSpaceBoyfriend]

Imho if you are more than 5'8 surgery is not worth it, this surgery requires tons of sacrifices which at certain height are just too much.
If you want to go just for pure need of being taller sure go for it but if there is something bothering you i second that you should visit a shrink.

And i hate so say that but tons of people here would kill to be your height including me.

[onemorefoot]

There are people here that after they did the first surgery, the want the second round.However, I think I will see a doctor like you said for see if I have BDD, which I think the most of the people have sometimes.

[onemorefoot]

I would kill for grow 2 cm more and be 178, with that enough I think; but there are people with 178 that wants this surgery in order to be 184, so we wont be happy with nothing, however for mental health there is a limit.

[CCMidwest]

There are people here that after they did the first surgery, the want the second round.However, I think I will see a doctor like you said for see if I have BDD, which I think the most of the people have sometimes.

I would kill for grow 2 cm more and be 178, with that enough I think; but there are people with 178 that wants this surgery in order to be 184, so we wont be happy with nothing, however for mental health there is a limit.

If you're that concerned over less than an inch in height, it really does look like something else beyond height that is bothering you. Perhaps it is BDD, perhaps not. Speaking from experience as I have severe BDD, getting therapy has been one of the most beneficial things I have ever done for myself.

I've said this a couple of other times in this forum, but if you suspect you have BDD...please get help. BDD is a very serious thing.

The toll of other people somehow finding out you had cosmetic leg lengthening is probably higher when you're at a taller starting height.

Even this forum is proof of that. I admit I judge those over 5'9 that want this surgery pretty harshly. 5'8, 5'7, & 5'6 I think is more cosmetic, and below that...go for it.

[onemorefoot]

Exactly, a person of that height is bothering me, but I just can do the surgery, really I dont do it to compete with that person if not to improve myself. Be the best version you can.

[Auron]

There are people here that after they did the first surgery, the want the second round.However, I think I will see a doctor like you said for see if I have BDD, which I think the most of the people have sometimes.

Don't forget that most of the second surgerys are done to "repair" their proportions, the gained height is a bonus.

[CCMidwest]

Don't forget that most of the second surgerys are to done "repair" their proportions, the gained height is a bonus.

I think also most of the quad patients weren't average height still after the first LL surgery.

[onemorefoot]

Yes, some people do to repair proportions, but some like Bohemia who finished like me wanted the second round, now I think he said he dont want it anymore, but future is unpredictable.

[Auron]

I think also most of the quad patients weren't average height still after the first LL surgery.

Yeah, they usually end up between 170~175cm after the first surgery.

[CCMidwest]

Yes, some people do to repair proportions, but some like Bohemia who finished like me wanted the second round, now I think he said he dont want it anymore, but future is unpredictable.

Bohemia is also 173cm or so after his LL...shorter than you.

[onemorefoot]

One thing I forgot, how do you go to the bathroom or take a shower, with a chair you go to the bathroom but is it very difficult?

[Auron]

Yes, some people do to repair proportions, but some like Bohemia who finished like me wanted the second round, now I think he said he dont want it anymore, but future is unpredictable.

Dude, tbh, we are only giving you an opinion but if you feel like 176cm isnt enough for you, you should consider LL. If I was 176cm I wouldn't do it but that's me. Everyone has a different dream height and thats what LL is for, to help you reach your dream height.

[onemorefoot]

Yes, my dreamed height is 6 foot, why? Because is good in whatever country, even in Dutchland.

[CCMidwest]

One thing I forgot, how do you go to the bathroom or take a shower, with a chair you go to the bathroom but is it very difficult?

Lol, that's the second time in like a week where I brought up to an average or above average height guy that he should probably seek professional mental help because he mentioned BDD, is not really disadvantaged in anyway, is irrationally torn up over his height... and they change the subject.

Ah well. Maybe somebody lurking will find my comments helpful lol.

[TIBIKE200]

Yes, my dreamed height is 6 foot, why? Because is good in whatever country, even in Dutchland.

Good for what?

Btw, do it if you want... But dont expect.that your life will.change...

 my little.brother became 6'1 this last year from 5'10.. He is still a social reject and he is still a virgin (never kissed a girl and he is 17 years old)

[onemorefoot]

I have researched about mental health and discovered BDD. I dont have it, I am insecure but not BDD( I know the diferrence between fat and slim, tall and short), BDD is an extreme condition.
Maybe your brother dont feel identificated  with his social group(that happened to me in the past for some time until I changed) and he maybe is shy, and maybe he is not interested in having a girlfriend(I havent had yet and is not rare).

[YourSpaceBoyfriend]

I think tibike is just implying that being tall doesn't make you a pussyslayer.

[onemorefoot]

Pussyslayer hahahaha, there should be a movie.