Thanks for the response
Ive always had attention from women but my serious lack of self confidence due to my height has just ruined any chances, i also get really really down hearted when i see the way women just automatically respond to tall guys even when they are not in good shape and not particularly attractive.
The last girl i felt was attracted to me was unfortunately married, i worked with her, she arrived over here as she had gained a visa by being married to the handyman he was 45 hes now 49/50 she is 32 im 33. When we worked together i was attracted to her but knew she was off limits as she was married, she gave me this vibe that she fancied me and even took the liberty of telling me on the second day i worked with her that he wasnt her type but married him because he pursued her, a very strange thing to tell a stranger i thought at the time. She friended me on facebook and came running to me anytime she needed anything and i was there for her as much as i could be (i didnt answer the questions she asked me 100% truthfully as at the time i thought she was a bit sensitive to hear the truth. She caught her husband touching one of the cleaner girls at work and came running to me for advice saying 'i shouldnt have married him, he cheated on me before we were married, etc etc' i told her to tell him to knock it on the head. Months later it happened again and she came running to me i said the same thing. She came back telling me that he accused her of always messaging me and doing things with me, she found this very funny to the point i got the impression i thought she actually wanted it to be true. She then told me her husband felt threwtened by me as the women at the other building (who i had never met) all fancied me (she then told me that it was her who had built me up by telling them stories) again i got the distinct impression that she fancied me and it worried me at the time as i didnt want any drama at work. One night i picked the girls who worked there upand they had been drinking on the way back the girl in the passenger seat said 'btw @@@@, @@@@ well fancies you, shes always talking about how you and her talk on facebook and how strong you are' i was mortified and tried to laugh it off but i knew it was true. I recieved numerous messages from her saying how she felt alone, unlived, like a failure etc and i reassured her she wasnt i couldnt say anything else as i didnt think it was appropriate. Anyway i left the work place and seen her with another ex work friend and we occasionally met up for food and films etc, everytime we met she moaned about how she was sick if her husband but at the same time how she wants a baby (im sure she has convinced herself a baby will fix her marriage and fulfill her ambition to have kids just like her friends) she also told me everytime we met that the women at the other building though i was 'hot' (but i doubt this story i think it was her who thought this). Her husband was an and actually got her transferred to anither home to get her away from me as he thought i was after her apparently (i think he sensed she liked me). He also told stories about me which were untrue and spread rumours. The guy was a prick and he didnt deserve to be with her. The last time i saw her she was in the car and she was moaning and looked very deflated, she said her husband was always moaning and being grumpy, i started feeling bad for her and for some reason empathised with her as i felt we both shared similar feelings (unfulfilled,sad,feel like failures etc) we arrived at the meal and she was discussing about when her and her husband were iut and about but she fkd up and instead said when her and i were out in town, i said to her you mean your husband @@@@@. She laughed and went 'oh yeah'. After this last meeting i realised i didnt owe this guy anything, he was an who was nasty to me for no reason other than the fact that he thought his wife fancied me. Needless to say i started messaging her to see how she was but she wasnt as responsive as before to cut this story short i told her (i went way way ott) that i would give her the things she wanted, world trips, babies etc i also confronted her and asked her if i had asked her out before he met her if she would have said yes she eventually told me basically she would have said no, i told her this was crap and told her i knew she liked me when we worked together she again denied this and told me her husband was her type (funny she told me twice he wasnt) the situation ended up with her unfriending me on fb and not talking to me. I genuinely love this girl but i am left seriously confused and low in confidence due to the way she treated me when i confronted her. People have told me she went into denial when i called her on it and the reality of leaving her husband was harder than actually doing it. I had major major issues after this and decided i was no longer going to be a doormat for people and that i wouldnt allow my height to be an issue anymore i would go and get it fixed. I will miss my weight training but i will rebuild when i am back muscle can always be built but im not going to go back to 225 il stick to 190-195. I want to look back on 2016 as a year that was really tough but i ultimately sorted a life long problem. Im also looking forward to my experience in China and meeting people who have had similar issues to myself
I appreciate the responses guys. Maybe you can give your opinion on the problem i had
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