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[Descreteuser]

Hello everyone, been quite w while since I've been on here but thought I'd share with you an experience I had online which outlines how shallow some girls are with height.. I saw an attractive girl whose height was put on as 1.75 (5'9).. Keep in mind I am now a strong 185, 186 in the morning so I have 185 on my profile.. So anyway after talking for a while she says, it appears that your not tall enough, I need a guy who is 6'3.. I couldn't believe what I was reading.. I am 4 inches taller than her, and she's claiming that I wouldn't be tall enough for her.. Even a 6'1 guy can be judged online about his height haha.. It's ridiculous if you ask me..

[Penguinn]

I'd say you have an advantage, you're tall AND you keep the deluded ones away.

[Rlover]

lol what a bitch!

Descreteuser did you do LL? You are really tall.

Edit: Forget it, i've already seen you did.

[Cheez]

Welcome back., DescreteUser... Loved reading your diary.

And on the topic, doesn't surprise me the least.

Girls are usually not in the "he must be at least x cm taller than me"-camp, but are more often thinking in "he must be at least x cm tall" category.

So a 160cm girl would not think "hey, a 165 cm guy is 5 cm taller than me, which is okay", but she would usually still think "a man needs to be 180cm for me to be an acceptable mate".

It's horrible, but in my experience, that's the way a lot of women think.

[TIBIKE200]

Welcome back., DescreteUser... Loved reading your diary.

And on the topic, doesn't surprise me the least.

Girls are usually not in the "he must be at least x cm taller than me"-camp, but are more often thinking in "he must be at least x cm tall" category.

So a 160cm girl would not think "hey, a 165 cm guy is 5 cm taller than me, which is okay", but she would usually still think "a man needs to be 180cm for me to be an acceptable mate".

It's horrible, but in my experience, that's the way a lot of women think.

But it's like that only in online dating... Atleast from my experience...

[Cheez]

But it's like that only in online dating... Atleast from my experience...

Imo it's a lot more profound in online dating, since there is a lot of "catalogue thinking" in there. But still a lot of women are thinking like that also in real life in my experience.

Your mileage may vary, off course...

[TIBIKE200]

Imo it's a lot more profound in online dating, since there is a lot of "catalogue thinking" in there. But still a lot of women are thinking like that also in real life in my experience.

Your mileage may vary, off course...

Boh... I think it also depends on where you are from. Since I am from a place in which 180+ is not so common, I dont think that many women will outrightly discount you if you are below 175... Nordic aryan and dutch cultures on the other hand....

[aspirant185]

In Germany it is very very difficult for a guy if he is below 180. Even very average to completely unattractive women are to be seen with guys 180 +

[Cheez]

Boh... I think it also depends on where you are from. Since I am from a place in which 180+ is not so common, I dont think that many women will outrightly discount you if you are below 175... Nordic aryan and dutch cultures on the other hand....

You are right, it depends on the country where that girl lives in, off course.

It will be different if you are living in northern Europe or south east asia.

[TIBIKE200]

You are right, it depends on the country where that girl lives in, off course.

It will be different if you are living in northern Europe or south east asia.

You dont need to go as far as south east asia... Also the americas, southren europe, Greece/Turkey, Israel, UK, Russia and some other developped countries...

[Cheez]

You dont need to go as far as south east asia... Also the americas, southren europe, Greece/Turkey, Israel, UK, Russia and some other developped countries...

You are right.

I just listed the extremes..



 

[Charis]

You dont meed to be tall to get a girl and a girl who judges you on height is not worth your time(im not talking about men who are too short like 5'2 or 5ft) Also lots of girls dont judge on height and yes i agree they say my ideal guy needs to be ideal but that is just an assumption.Once u start mingling with them they start seeing personality like tibike previously said.If anyone wants to do this surgery just do it if you feel short or you desire to be tall.Do it for yourself otherwise it is a waste of time,money amd athletic ability.

[Cheez]

Do it if you feel short or you desire to be tall. Do it for yourself otherwise it is a waste of time,money and athletic ability.

Quoted for truth...

[Descreteuser]

It didn't bother me personally, most girls mention that they love my height, even more so in real life.. Just pisses me off that there are some girls that could be shallow to that extreme..

[aspirant185]

You dont need to go as far as south east asia... Also the americas, southren europe, Greece/Turkey, Israel, UK, Russia and some other developped countries...

Russian girls are not shorter than North European btw And Russian guys are tall. So girls have tall standards so to say

[Knik]

Russian girls are not shorter than North European btw And Russian guys are tall. So girls have tall standards so to say

No average in Russia is 172 cm for men

[TnaTna]

But you have to understand the average difference in height between women and men is 11-13 cms (13cms for tall people). "If" this 175cm girl were a man, she would be 188 cms. So it is understandable why she wants men who are at least around 190cms (as people would almost always like to be a bit taller themselves, even when they are tall). I think much of height dysphoria comes from men who, for example, are 170 cms (158 cms in feminine height) and try to get girls who are more than 165 cms. Short men have fewer choices, truly, but everything would be better if anyone had had a right conscious of oneself's opposite sexe height.
You shouldn't be that upset, don't be upset when it comes to girls who are taller than your feminine height (172-3 cms).

[TIBIKE200]

I am sorry, but this is complete bullcrap..

 As a 171cm guy almost all of my gfs and one night stands were at the 160+ range and 3 as tall as me or even taller.

A girl who calls a 185 man "short" is mentally ill. Just like a guy who calls a girl with a BMI lower than 25 "fat"

[Knik]

I have doubt about your story OP
I never heard such a story to someone your own size, even from a great girl
The tall girl I know asking a bf doing the minimum size, knowing that my example to the girl in question is more than 5'9 '' (5'11" or maby a little more)
I suspect some people here to look at more complex users to push the final to the operation.

[paddy10tellys]

Theophilo, forgive my ignorance, but what does "OP" stand for?

[Knik]

Theophilo, forgive my ignorance, but what does "OP" stand for?

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[AimHigh]

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[TnaTna]

I am sorry, but this is complete bullcrap..

 As a 171cm guy almost all of my gfs and one night stands were at the 160+ range and 3 as tall as me or even taller.

A girl who calls a 185 man "short" is mentally ill.

I don't think it is bullcrap.
1) I don't say it is impossible to get girls taller than your own opposite sex height. Of course not. I say when you look for girls taller than your own opposite sex height, you should expect, more or less often, to be refused because of your height.
2) He doesn't say she called him short. Actually, she said he was 'too short for her'. She probably knows he is actually tall, but she considers herself as very tall (even if the difference between their same-sex height is actually small : 3 cms), and she onlybwants men in her stature class and higher, as many shorter girls do.
I don't say it is a good behaviour though, I just try to understand what's going on.

[TIBIKE200]

It is bullcrap because humans are not robots that work according to equations...
  All you need to do is walk outside and see couples of all sizes and shapes...

[TnaTna]

You seem not to understand. It's not because you disagree with it that it must be wrong.
I don't say there is no couple with different stature ratio etc.
But actually, this "equation" works very well in real. You probably just didn't see that the girls you had and who were taller than your feminine height (159 cms) found you actually short and for most of them, too short for them. It doesn't mean they didn't like you, you may have plenty of other qualities than make height being a very secondary factor.

[TIBIKE200]

If you want to go all scientific, according to polls (which are the only way to know what people actually want) a woman usually prefers the man to be taller than her... That's it.
 If I was too short for someone she would not date me.

Other qualities? I think I am good looking (Not hollywood actor good looking) and interesting enough to hold a conversation... Nothing spectacular... Real world works that for some women you will be attractive and for others you wont.
  There isnt any "height ratio" in couples. I know that in 96% of couples the man is taller but in most couples that difference goes from an inch to 4-6 inches (according to a study done on US population I believe).