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I feel like i am finally getting over my height dysphoria
« on: February 01, 2016, 02:02:12 PM »

I'm a 20 year old guy and i had been contemplating LL for the past 6 months. I really gave a lot of thought about this surgery and whether i should go for it -even if not now- or not. I actually have never been discriminated because of my height. There were times that my close friends who are about 180 cm tall teased me about my height because they know that i am a perfectionist egotistical   and this is somewhat annoying sometimes, other than this minor thing i have never been discriminated in any way.

Would i be happier if i were at least 175 cm tall? Probably, because i would never have to worry about my height and looking short.

I'm a good looking blond guy with good facial features, i study in one of the best medical school in my country and i have good friends,a good life and i am very sociable. Other than my height dysphoria, i am pretty content with my current life. One of the reason that i had been contemplating LL is that i want to be perfect in every aspect, this is just the way i am.

Thinking about the time and money i would be spending for LL, i think it is not that big of a deal though they are still a factor for not doing. Pain, loss of athletic ability and possible major complications like nerve damage, infection, compartment syndrome, persistent pain and numbness etc. is making me feel like it's just not worth it.

My morning height is 171 cm. My diurnal shrinkage is really huge as i go down as low as 168.5 at night( I attribute this to the collagen genes i inherited from my mom, i believe my extracellular matrix in my body is a bit loose since i have a low degree benign ligamentous laxity) . Throughout the day i am between 169-170 cm.

 I started wearing 4.5 cm lifts and this helped a lot because the gap between 170 and 174 feels too important. Judging by the fact that most girls are under 170 cm, these lifts are really useful in my opinion. When a 167 cm girl wears 8 cm heels and becomes 175 cm, you are out of the evolutionary contest if you are a 170 cm guy wearing flat eventhough she is shorter than you are.

Long story short, i weighed the pros and cons of LL, i decided to move on from this idea. I'll be wearing my 4-5 cm lifts, be close to the average 175 cm and move on with my life.
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Re: I feel like i am finally getting over my height dysphoria
« Reply #1 on: February 01, 2016, 02:10:11 PM »

Been there, done that. I tried lifts (1 inch).. It was cool for a few weeks... Afterwards I began thinking "Wow only if my barefoot height was this much!" and long story short, here I am on this forum
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Re: I feel like i am finally getting over my height dysphoria
« Reply #2 on: February 01, 2016, 03:26:44 PM »

I'm a 20 year old guy and i had been contemplating LL for the past 6 months. I really gave a lot of thought about this surgery and whether i should go for it -even if not now- or not. I actually have never been discriminated because of my height. There were times that my close friends who are about 180 cm tall teased me about my height because they know that i am a perfectionist egotistical ahole and this is somewhat annoying sometimes, other than this minor thing i have never been discriminated in any way.

Would i be happier if i were at least 175 cm tall? Probably, because i would never have to worry about my height and looking short.

I'm a good looking blond guy with good facial features, i study in one of the best medical school in my country and i have good friends,a good life and i am very sociable. Other than my height dysphoria, i am pretty content with my current life. One of the reason that i had been contemplating LL is that i want to be perfect in every aspect, this is just the way i am.

Thinking about the time and money i would be spending for LL, i think it is not that big of a deal though they are still a factor for not doing. Pain, loss of athletic ability and possible major complications like nerve damage, infection, compartment syndrome, persistent pain and numbness etc. is making me feel like it's just not worth it.

My morning height is 171 cm. My diurnal shrinkage is really huge as i go down as low as 168.5 at night( I attribute this to the collagen genes i inherited from my mom, i believe my extracellular matrix in my body is a bit loose since i have a low degree benign ligamentous laxity) . Throughout the day i am between 169-170 cm.

 I started wearing 4.5 cm lifts and this helped a lot because the gap between 170 and 174 feels too important. Judging by the fact that most girls are under 170 cm, these lifts are really useful in my opinion. When a 167 cm girl wears 8 cm heels and becomes 175 cm, you are out of the evolutionary contest if you are a 170 cm guy wearing flat eventhough she is shorter than you are.

Long story short, i weighed the pros and cons of LL, i decided to move on from this idea. I'll be wearing my 4-5 cm lifts, be close to the average 175 cm and move on with my life.

Good on you man.. Nothing wrong with our height.
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Re: I feel like i am finally getting over my height dysphoria
« Reply #3 on: February 01, 2016, 04:49:24 PM »

Good on you man.. Nothing wrong with our height.

Are you also getting over your height disphoria?
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Re: I feel like i am finally getting over my height dysphoria
« Reply #4 on: February 01, 2016, 05:05:14 PM »

If anyone is trying to get over their height disphoria, the worst thing you can do (in my opinion) is wear lifts. When you wear lifts, you're just lying to yourself. And they have to come off at some point, even if you're alone and only you know about it (and it's probably not realistic to think you can keep the lie up amongst your friends/women forever, either). How bad would you feel if you got a girl's number while wearing the lifts, then go home, take them off, and wonder "Hmmm...could I have gotten her number without my lifts on? Guess I gotta keep wearing them until I've 'got her' and we're in a relationship."

Lifts are a big part of what drove me to do LL. But everyone's different. If lifts are the proper long-terms solution for some, then all the more power to them.
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Re: I feel like i am finally getting over my height dysphoria
« Reply #5 on: February 01, 2016, 05:23:30 PM »

Are you also getting over your height disphoria?

I've never really had height dysphoria as an adult. Growing up as a kid I hated that I was always one of the shortest in my class.. As an adult, my height never phased me that much. I found out about this procedure through a friend and decided to look into it.. The idea of being taller excites me, but doesn't control my mental state.. I applaud anyone who has the character to walk away from this... But also totally understand why people want to get this procedure done.


.. considering you're nearly a Doctor, you'd think that you'd be able to spell dysphoria right haha
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« Reply #6 on: February 01, 2016, 05:25:20 PM »

I've never really had height dysphoria as an adult. Growing up as a kid I hated that I was always one of the shortest in my class.. As an adult, my height never phased me that much. I found out about this procedure through a friend and decided to look into it.. The idea of being taller excites me, but doesn't control my mental state.. I applaud anyone who has the character to walk away from this... But also totally understand why people want to get this procedure done.

  If it's only for excitement, maybe you should indeed walk away from it.. Especially if you are not so young (I understand that through what you wrote).
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Re: I feel like i am finally getting over my height dysphoria
« Reply #7 on: February 01, 2016, 05:28:56 PM »

  If it's only for excitement, maybe you should indeed walk away from it.. Especially if you are not so young (I understand that through what you wrote).

Ever since I was young, it's been my dream to be just as tall as everyone else.. Just because I don't whine and moan like a little girl about my current height, doesn't mean I'm any less deserving of this procedure.. I'm just secure, that's all.
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Re: I feel like i am finally getting over my height dysphoria
« Reply #8 on: February 01, 2016, 05:31:57 PM »

Ever since I was young, it's been my dream to be just as tall as everyone else.. Just because I don't whine and moan like a little girl about my current height, doesn't mean I'm any less deserving of this procedure.. I'm just secure, that's all.

 There are a few people around here (And I would dare to say me included) who dont whine and cry like little girls or blame their height for all of their misery in life... Having your height disturbing you does not mean you are insecure... You as well said you searched on the internet ways to get taller... So it basically disturbed you as much as it disturbed me.
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Re: I feel like i am finally getting over my height dysphoria
« Reply #9 on: February 01, 2016, 05:44:35 PM »


 There are a few people around here (And I would dare to say me included) who dont whine and cry like little girls or blame their height for all of their misery in life... Having your height disturbing you does not mean you are insecure... You as well said you searched on the internet ways to get taller... So it basically disturbed you as much as it disturbed me.

I was following up on what my friend had told me about this procedure and decided to do a general search to see if there were any other ways of getting taller.. As an adult, my height hasn't disturbed me at all.... And if you are "disturbed" or anxious about a personal quality, it's defined as an insecurity.
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Re: I feel like i am finally getting over my height dysphoria
« Reply #10 on: February 01, 2016, 06:52:50 PM »

@Deads,  besides discussing LL in this forum and with the friend you mentioned, are you discussing it with family members, girlfriend, etc.,   just wondering if this helps getting over the dysphoria.
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« Reply #11 on: February 01, 2016, 07:25:25 PM »

@Deads,  besides discussing LL in this forum and with the friend you mentioned, are you discussing it with family members, girlfriend, etc.,   just wondering if this helps getting over the dysphoria.

Since joining this forum, I have spoken to my gf about the procedure, my mock-ups, proportions, the whole lot (she must get sick of it). I've told my sister briefly about it... I don't have dismorphia, but in terms of reducing how obsessed I was over this procedure, talking to them didn't help. What helped, was that the initial novelty of this procedure wore thin and I realised that 5-6cm isn't a HUGE difference.. I've never had any issues at my height and it makes me question whether it's worth it.. So, the main thing that has alleviated my obsession is being realistic.. I'm still in love with the idea, but not as much as I initially was.

If I was shorter than I am now, it might be a different story haha.
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Re: I feel like i am finally getting over my height dysphoria
« Reply #12 on: February 01, 2016, 11:33:13 PM »

Since joining this forum, I have spoken to my gf about the procedure, my mock-ups, proportions, the whole lot (she must get sick of it). I've told my sister briefly about it... I don't have dismorphia, but in terms of reducing how obsessed I was over this procedure, talking to them didn't help. What helped, was that the initial novelty of this procedure wore thin and I realised that 5-6cm isn't a HUGE difference.. I've never had any issues at my height and it makes me question whether it's worth it.. So, the main thing that has alleviated my obsession is being realistic.. I'm still in love with the idea, but not as much as I initially was.

If I was shorter than I am now, it might be a different story haha.

I agree with you.   The way I see it is if there is even just a little doubt in the back of your mind whether you should do LL, then you are not ready to go through with it.  I'm only about 95% ready to do this, but this last 5% is killing me inside to the point that I have trouble concentrating in other things.
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Re: I feel like i am finally getting over my height dysphoria
« Reply #13 on: April 30, 2016, 09:14:17 PM »

Nope. I just can't get over it. I think if i had 5 cm longer tibias, i would be a lot happier in life. It has become an obsession to me.  5 cm tibial lenghtening in the far future and everything will be solved. To be honest, i don't feel so short at my height. Yeah i am short but this is not the only reason. I really want long lower legs.
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