Yeah I would have done it in a heartbeat if I knew it was safe long-term, now I have been on the fence for almost a year just like yellowspike. Been visiting a shrink and I feel a bit better but it's different days you know.
I understand that with you, the issue is that you feel short compared to your father and I suppose some of your friends, since you live in a very tall country. I'm not in any way attempting to minimize your feelings, but at least your height of 5'10" (I believe) is really only slightly below average in only Sweden (everywhere else, you're average at worst). I was short no matter how you slice it. I actually never really experienced height discrimination per se and have been pretty successful in my life, but my confidence always had a ceiling due to being very short. I went out with some friends last night before having a girl over, and got 3 other girls' numbers in the course of an hour. At the bar, I was still on shorter end compared to the guys that were there, but was taller than all but two girls there (and one of those girls was ultra tall at 6'1"). So it's definitely helped my confidence overall. I was on the fence about LL for half a year, but knew in the back of my mind I eventually had to do it, as I just couldn't forget about the prospect of being taller (and at my height, there was no question that I needed it).
The problem with LL too is that even if you do it, you're faced with either settling for a lower gain for a faster recovery or enduring more for a better gain. I pushed as far as I could to 7cm (only stopped because my surgeon ordered me to lol), and still might do another 2-2.5cm next year (depending on where my life is that point). I say for all those who do it, shoot for as much as you safely can, even if the recovery will be longer. You want your reward to be worth the cost.
Also, as much as it sucks, looks are very important. I would never date a fat girl because I don't find them attractive at all. If there was some sort of workout that could increase my height, I'd have been 6'2" since the age of 16...but, the only way to get taller unfortunately is to go through LL. I saw an article where a wife of a Dr. G patient said she'd have never dated her husband if he had been his former height. As much as that sucks, it's just par for the course. If a woman lost a lot of weight and became attractive to me (and I wouldn't have dated her previously), it's kinda the same thing. Only, she didn't need surgery to lose weight.
Women in general I would say have very high standards, especially the desirable ones (but, really, all women think they're 10/10s, since online dating greatly inflates their egos - I'm one of the few men that doesn't automatically swipe right). So it behooves short men even more to do this, as much as it royally blows.
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