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[Betagur7]

So to start just want to say not really looking for any advice on this topic but just wanted to see if anyone else is dealing with what I'm dealing with. Live in the South (USA South), in a very very religious area. Not making excuses at all, but just saying that it'll be tougher to confide with anyone else about this surgery. Come from a strictly religious household, but personally not. Just want to say that down south, image is very important and height is a big part of that for males. Never have been one to care about what others think about me, but can just imagine my family never really trying to understand. They're the type who think if you pray or do enough good things you'll get rewarded with a good life and if bad things happen to you then you are either a bad person or deserved it. Not asking for sympathy by the way (still getting the surgery done, already booked a consultation with Dr. Rozbruch) but it's hard to do stuff like this when society is against it. It's really messed up though, because feel like you are penalized for being short but you are also penalized when you go to try do something to not be short or as short.   

[wants2growtaller]

The truth is..you are penalize for being short. But you should still do  the surgery and move to a different city where no one knows you did surgery. Im going through the same thing except Im short ANd black.

[wants2growtaller]

You do get punished for being short and its worse when you a person of color.

[cheekycabs]

Apparently it also comes in black.



You're not obligated to tell your family, I just tell people I was in a car accident if they ask. However, you will need to tell someone you trust, like a nurse or helper in order to get you through the recovery process. You'll be almost useless for the first few months.

Just tell your family you are traveling for a few months, I still skype my family every day yet they don't know.

[ThatGuy]

My family is kinda the same but I'm in the north east of the states. They also have that what goes around comes around type of mindset. For the most part because they're hyper religious and susceptible to believing things like homeopathy and colloidal silver I don't really value their opinions on much of anything. I don't know your circumstances, but for me I'd just tell them to fck off or I would gtfo or find a way to hide it. I'm not sure how much you value family so it's all on you and good luck. If you're an atheist and you value your sanity and relationships never tell your family you don't believe anymore that was a lesson learned. I know you didn't ask for advice, but I know you'll need that and then some if you're dealing with religious people.
Have you read the entire bible?

Also how tall are you?

[Betagur7]

Yea, definitely have, was made to recite lines of the Bible as a kid. I'm an atheist and my family knows it. Already getting a lot of grief from them because of it, will definitely not tell them about CLL. My height is 171 cm (5'7), and for most of my life was the shortest or one of the shortest in every room.