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[Taweel]

Who try therapy instead of CLL?

[lessthanavg8300]

Bro I came at the issue with all the right mentality and gave that a chance except its people reacting to you and not the other way around.  Thats why therapy will never work.

[Sambollio]

I’ve been going to therapy for around 5 years. Thankfully my insurance covers it or it might be cheaper in the long run to do LL. Also it wasn’t all to address my “height dysphoria”. For the first 3.5 it was for GAD, depression and panic attacks. Then I brought up my issues with my height and self esteem. My height issues run pretty deep because my older brother was always much bigger than me and ended up being 4-5 inches taller than me in adulthood. He was abusive and my mom would always talk about my dads height negatively (who is my height) and she would praise my taller friends growing up for their height. I was always teased in school for my height and hearing my family praise my POS older brother for a height he did nothing to earn and definitely not deserve crushed me.

Anyways that’s the background. At first it was difficult to get my therapist to take my concerns seriously. She would want to always direct it back to my anxiety or depression which I had been covering for years. It also doesn’t help that she was a woman and I don’t think she could grasp how much my height was effecting my self esteem. Eventually we started talking about that for about a year straight and it really didn’t help much. What therapy can do for you is make you more okay with your height, but it can’t change the reality of life. If you are severely underweight and still view yourself as fat, therapy can correct that. Or if you think you are short but are 6’1 it can help that. Those are dysmorphias, it’s an altered perception of reality. I have a dysphoria about something that is actually true. I don’t think if I spend years more on this that it will ever fully resolve itself.

I’d say prior to therapy my dysphoria was like a 9/10 and after a little over a year it’s dropped to about a 7/10. Adding 3 inches on my femurs would likely drop it to a 3/10 or less. Maybe even completely eliminate it, like it does for many people. I think everyone who can afford therapy should get it, the worlds tough. I don’t think for the vast majority of people on here it can resolve their height issues, just alleviate it somewhat.

[Taweel]

In general most people did therapy before CLL?

[Unknown]

It works if you are average height or above, if you are short you are just self deluding because the world will not change its lens on you just because you assert dominance, people would see it as compensating for being short.