I (hope) I don't think it's about me. I could also say "hey, I love this woman and I don't care about (possible) sons, it's their problem". But wel,l maybe I'm thinking of myself a bit... because everyone wants to have happy children. And their happiness will be the happiness of the parents. A psychologist would have to answer that.
She's not my wife, she's my girlfriend. And yes it sounds and it is disrespectful and I'm not talking to her about it as I'm trying to be a kind person, believe me or not. That's why I use the anonymity of the internet.
No comment on that, but I want to compliment you. I have read some of your posts, you sound like a very educated person. And that's something I rarely say to anyone, even though I'm also from an academic background.
Sadly I am not, hard to change.
Suppose your kids were definitely born with short heights cuz of your gf's bad genes then I must criticize his telling you not to care about your kids' heights cuz some of LLers' tragedies derived from disregards about kids' heights while they are really suffering from the issues that can potientially lead to their being short but again I am not blaming any parents for not taking enough care of their children's heights. I know it depends on parents' perceptions of what being short will mean for a lifetime and I don't think not very educated parents or short parents will dedicate themselves very much into taking cares of their children's heights so we gotta realize parents are not God they are not omniscient so that they can predict you don't end puberty earlier, you don't suffer from weird maturing diseases and etc.
But now the conditions are that you know what short heights mean and know something about height not to mention you are at the same time having concerns about children's heights, which is making me perplexed why he is giving that kind of suggestions that you don't need to care about their heights and just be selfish. So I don't think being selfish is a good advice.
I know how mentally screwing up being 163cm in European countries will be cuz I am nearly 162cm in China and I know how horrendously nerve-wracking it is standing at 162cm barefoot in China as Genz, not to mention standing at that height in European countries, which means LL cannot even save their lives. I am not being toxic and just illustrating the risks you are likely to run if you insist on being selfish without disconcerting about your gf's bad genes.
My advice is that if you are really concerned about your children's heights and cannot accept the risks that your children will be that short, then MDOW got it right, just dump her but with a legal and reasonable excuse instead of claiming your height doesn't deserve reproducing with me cuz you will turn her into an obsessed psychopath with height just like some of male users on this forum. So don't create any similar tregedies. You underlined her as just your gf so it's not unbelievable to dump her before getting married. But like I said, if you are really falling in love with her and ambivalent between having children(although I don't know why having children must follow after marriages) and not letting go of her, just consider HGH and LL(HGH may misfire on your children cuz they are not that short, they cannot achieve supplementary HGH and etc. I think Paley's Option 5 can sort of solve your children's height issues like getting them taller to nearly 180cm but that will cost stloads of money and if you don't possess so much money then Option 5 is just a joke and you gotta work out another backup plans.