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[leuker]

Hello guys,

What do you think is/are the most difficult question(s) one needs to honestly ask himself before deciding to do this surgery?

Let me start: Did you arrive to the point where you tried everything (fitness, therapy, etc..)and are still not happy in life?

[zaozari]

In my case the most important question is to know for sure and  honestly if the problem of short stature is unsurmountable and also in the future (by waiting some time, self introspection, psychological help, etc), by anything else, therefore reaching the conclusion that:
1)psychotherapy conselling doesn't solve the problem and the other sources of "power"/ strong self esteem failed (good career, good love life, etc) ironically due to height neurosis, and not directly or not  due to other reasons, like existencial crisis, very low self esteem  not related only to short stature  etc)even more than being short itself.
2) emigration is not a possibility in my case.
3) elvator shoes are not enough,not confortable, can't wear allways (beach, girlfriend  etc) and possibly not good tho knee articulations and back (used since 17 years ago).
4) Etc.
....and being sure I won't have true hapiness and true feelings of relax, peace, freedom, without growing a bit.
That question is accompanied by 2 more: if I should risk loosing physical 100% body health (or even die) and selling my house to pay, starting all over and alone not being very young.
I also ask me at this moment (that I am so depressed) if I can manage everything, and having very little support up to the end and if there is 10/10 pain and complications.

[Arcon]

1. Is there any easier way to come into terms with my height?
2. Am I strong enough physically and mentally to go through this?
3. Can I handle possible delays or problems during my recovery, financially, mentally and socially?

[Masteryourlife]

I think the most important thing is to take some time although that time is a burden.
I read about ppl getting LL for cosmetic porpuses at 17/18/19 yo and they really didn't have the time to realize what height can or cannot do for them .
I started having height neurosis around that age and now roughly 5 years later I am still with it , it just worsened probably .
I have few reasons for it to worsen because of personal factors that are not the point here but although I was suffering in a way I could not even imagine before ..like my mornings had no meaning whatsoever..it was just another day of deep sadness ,I always kept my sh** somehow together and took time because A) Was scared B) didn't have the money and C) (but most importantly) because I didn't want to rush a life changing decision no matter how much I would have give to have those extra 5 cm or so .

This surgery not only changes your life but also of the one around you .
A good result leads in a happier you and peace of mind of your family/loved ones (minor aspect) , but a bad outcome will kill you inside ( if not that bad to kill you practically but there is a really far chance for that to happen unless something happens on both ends..patient-surgeon) and the ones around you .
Remember that we live once so we want this to make our life better and at least know that no matter what when we will wake up from the surgery we will not be like "....wtf did I do !?" But " Its hurts,it sucks...but I had the guts to do something that others might not even consider to do in order to achieve my dreams .My real dreams,period."

I would like to go with this mindset into my surgery and therefore the only way to , according to me , is to give time to yourself to absorb this surgery in every aspect to the point where the day you will be there you will be ready and sure of your decisions even tho fearfull and worried because we are humans .

You will remember the days you felt like s**t and the parties/girls you avoided because of this .
You will remember how many times you felt to belong somewhere else but you were stucked down there because of you height .
Height it's not everything ,neither are money ,girls or u name it .
But we are all unique an if this is our dream then we should pursue it BUT the only way to know if this is our real desire is time ,because wishing to be taller it's a thing ,doing this it's another.

There is no magic psychologist, pill or country to emigrate to .
You can't be scared of the country you make your vacations to because of height like what !?
So embrace every emotion and take your time ,if you are destined to do this surgery you mind/heart will tell !

[Humanoid]

The surgery itself for cosmetic reason is relatively new. There isn't many study about possible future risks such as premature arthitis, decrease life expectancy etc. If after CLL my life expectancy will be reduced by 10 years, i won't do it.

Regarding happines, there is a study that one year after CLL happiness significantly increase, but after seven years it decreases to the level only slightly above pre CLL. Because human always crave for more. Yes, we may solve one of our problems which is height, but there are so many aspects in life constribute to happiness.

http://actaorthopaedica.be/assets/2484/07-Emara.pdf