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[Bon_Voyage]

This have probably been discussed somewhere here but I haven't come across it yet. I know regardless of the age, if the concern is there, it is there. But I tend to think that the older you get the more you forget about height. My father who is short, acts like he never thinks about height. He is quite successful and of course married my mother that's taller than him, so that could have helped him significantly with Height concerns. I would appreciate your responses Folks.

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[myloginacct]

I tend to think that the older you get the more you forget about height. My father who is short, acts like he never thinks about height.

On a broad scale, I could answer "yes", and that'd be true.

But in the end, it's all about you, and how you view yourself. Some will not be over their height neurosis, even during old age. However, that's a given; it's just statistics. There's bound to be some.

Do you know about thanatophobia and death anxiety? All humans have it to a certain degree at some point of their lives. It can even get really intense for us.

I just wanted to share this, as it never left my memory:

It is during the years of young adulthood (20 to 40 years of age) that death anxiety most often begins to become prevalent. However, during the next phase of life, the middle age adult years (40–64 years of age), death anxiety peaks at its highest levels when in comparison to all other age ranges throughout the lifespan. Surprisingly, levels of death anxiety then slump off in the old age years of adulthood (65 years of age and older). This is in contrast with most people’s expectations, especially regarding all of the negative connotations younger adults have about the elderly and the aging process (Kurlychek & Trenner, 1982).

[W]

It starts when your 18, peaks at mid-20 and probably tapers off in your 40's. At some point you start to focus on other things that you realize are more important. I think the post above about death is a good example as it's probably the same as HR.

It's like comparing your priorities as you age.
10-18: obsessed with shoes
18-28: obsessed with cars
29-39: obsessed with house
40-49: obsessed with business
50-60: obsessed with kids, grandkids and what you'll leave behind
60+: do it all over again

[Mars]

There have been a lot of patients 40+ with families, so it would seem for many that the concern does not lessen with age.

[myloginacct]

A lot of men are only marrying around 40 nowadays, so I'd say that's the point until height neurosis is still somewhat of a concern for most people who have it.

For the people with really bad height dysphoria/neurosis, I think it only starts to fall off after 55, when your looks as a male just start deteriorating to a point that height can't be your main worry. Still, it's all relative. Not everyone has height dysphoria simply because of how they look. Humans have an innate desire to fit in. When you fall on the fringes, far outside the average in anything related to how you look compared to others, you may still feel uncomfortable even after a lifetime of experience of dealing with it.

In general, most posters here just want to become tall enough so they're not short anymore, but average for where they live. We have few people trying to do 15cm to go from above average to really tall.

[Honore]

My dear friends.... I am in my late 40-ties and I am still going to do CLL. I am 165cm and want to do 10cm. So, in my case, it is still bugging me a lot..... Cant speak for others though. I advise everyone to see a shrink and make sure your "problems' are not attributed to anything else but your height before doing CLL.

Compare our struggle with transgenders..being short, for me, feels a lot like being born in the wrong body... age hasn't changed that feeling. Short stature can cause severe mental trauma and CLL might solve those problems. I made sure that other mental "problems" are almost all related to my height. Being short really, really, really sucks!!! and therefore an operation is a legitimate solution... butw, there are also a lot of short people who can deal with the pain and live a happy life(my brother for one)..

I had this discussion before and feel I have to repeat my hate for the use of the word height neurosis... feeling like being born in the wrong body is not a neurosis... again, being small really sucks and constantly thinking about it is NOT a mental disorder...NO NEUROSIS HERE, THAT'S A FAKE WORD .

Again, you can have many other issues, maybe related to your height "fixation" or not all.. so make sure(by therapy) that you know what problem you can expect to solve by CLL.