Topic: Depressed because of my height. (Read 1640 times)

shortguy4cll · « **on:** February 06, 2019, 10:47:11 AM »

I feel really depressed because of my height. My appearance has totally ruined my life. It makes it so hard to have people respect me and treat me fairly. People think I'm inferior because of my height. It's hard to keep friends and meet people from the opposite sex. It's just a lose situation

Sometimes I wonder how much doing call will change my life. I mean I lived all this long and have records that I was short. Is height really going to get me the dream life and respect that I wznt?

KrP1 · « **Reply #1 on:** February 06, 2019, 10:52:20 AM »

How tall are you?

shortguy4cll · « **Reply #2 on:** February 06, 2019, 10:55:55 AM »

Five feet 2

raku · « **Reply #3 on:** February 06, 2019, 11:03:48 AM »

I am 5.55 but still have the same feeling with you in Japan.
Height affect my normal life because I would feel upset seeing myself shorter than many man as well as women. I understand your feeling friend

Maybe 7cm in internal femur and 5 cm in tibia could make you go to 5.7fit

shortguy4cll · « **Reply #4 on:** February 06, 2019, 11:08:17 AM »

Thanks for understanding. It totally sucks being short. I am seriously thinking of doing cll..but it's not like I was born tall. People knew I was short, medic! Records etc show my previous height and now I'm five i. It's how people treat me. It's not the feeling of inferior. Because I don't feel inferior. But treat me badly because I'm a short man it makes me depressed.

raku · « **Reply #5 on:** February 06, 2019, 11:14:18 AM »

How old are you?

Do you think it is possible to go to a new place where you like to start a new life?
If you are young I think people would just think you grow to 5.7 because it is normal for growing later in 20s.

shortguy4cll · « **Reply #6 on:** February 06, 2019, 11:24:06 AM »

I'm not young. I'm 32. I'm past the growing stage. I want to go to a new place but where? You can't just pick up an gp. You have to apply for visas...residents card...permanent citizenship card. I would love to leave this Shiite life behind. But my personal records will follow me wherever I go.

shortguy4cll · « **Reply #7 on:** February 06, 2019, 11:25:32 AM »

Short men are persecuted.

myloginacc · « **Reply #8 on:** February 06, 2019, 11:39:12 AM »

Quote from: raku on February 06, 2019, 11:03:48 AM

I am 5.55 but still have the same feeling with you in Japan.
Height affect my normal life because I would feel upset seeing myself shorter than many man as well as women. I understand your feeling friend

Maybe 7cm in internal femur and 5 cm in tibia could make you go to 5.7fit

Is 5'5.5 really that bad in Japan? It's less than 2 inches shorter than the real average.

@OP: I'm so sorry you have to go through this bs. Try to remember that it's not worth feeling down due to people who treat you badly - they don't even think of you for longer than however many seconds they interact with you. It's hard, but they're not worthy of being the source of your mental anguish. You'll overcome that situation with time. For now, try to stay well.

shortguy4cll · « **Reply #9 on:** February 06, 2019, 11:41:41 AM »

It's ruined my life. Short people are despised in this word.

raku · « **Reply #10 on:** February 06, 2019, 12:04:39 PM »

2 inch really matters. Average height of man in Japan is between 5.7-5.8.

If I am 2 inch taller I maybe would not consider the surgery. It mean I would taller than most of the women and would not be too short compared with 5.10 fit man. Average matters. Higher of course better.

I admire people don't think anything with my height like some of my friend. If I don't think about the height maybe I would be happy but I could not help.

Seeing myself like a senior high school student and I have no other way to grow and change make me depressed.

myloginacc · « **Reply #11 on:** February 06, 2019, 01:56:41 PM »

Quote from: raku on February 06, 2019, 12:04:39 PM

2 inch really matters. Average height of man in Japan is between 5.7-5.8.

If I am 2 inch taller I maybe would not consider the surgery. It mean I would taller than most of the women and would not be too short compared with 5.10 fit man. Average matters. Higher of course better.

I admire people don't think anything with my height like some of my friend. If I don't think about the height maybe I would be happy but I could not help.

Seeing myself like a senior high school student and I have no other way to grow and change make me depressed.

Don't worry, I'm sure it's just a matter of time until you achieve the height you desire.

Forthecraic · « **Reply #12 on:** February 06, 2019, 03:49:36 PM »

I'm 5'7 myself man, pretty depressed aboit it also, average in my country is 5'10, yeah it gets me really down not going to lie, but that's why I'm trying to save the money for it. The way I look at it yes its depressing being short, but look at it this way once you have the money and get it done, it's done, there's light at the end of it all.

shortguy4cll · « **Reply #13 on:** February 06, 2019, 04:39:08 PM »

Honestly if your height doesnt impact how others treat you..regularly then you really havr nothing to complain about.

InFullStryde · « **Reply #14 on:** February 06, 2019, 07:30:09 PM »

I can relate to you not liking your height. I am 37 years old, Caucasian male living in the United States, and my starting height was 5'1.25". I had my CLL surgery with Dr. Shahab Maboubian on January 3rd, 2019. I now stand at 5'2.25". My goal is to get as close to 5'4 as possible. With insoles, I can comfortably stand at 5'6 or 5'7.

With this in mind....remember that the "Height does not make the man. The Man makes the Height". Before CLL, I was able to live a very fulfilling life. I started a company that is award winning and very successful and we are celebrating 11 years of business during 2019. I am very strong and fit, and I have always been fortunate enough to date beautiful woman. Of course, the majority of woman prefer a man who is taller; but that didn't stop me from trying. Even if 1% of all woman accept a man my height; that is still more than enough woman for me*smile. I have plenty of friends and a great hunger for life. The key for me was to accept myself as I am and do the very best I could. My height was just another challenge in this life that I must overcome and I did. You can overcome this challenge as well.

Tell us more about yourself... What do you do for a living? Do you workout or lead an active lifestyle? Other than height gains, what are your ambitions?

I can fully relate to you and understand that you're going through. After all years I finally found myself in a position where I could easily afford the surgery and since I own my company, I am able to stay away as long as I need. The timing was right so I went for it. I'd love to chat sometime when you have a chance. We're in this together, my friend!

Talk soon,

shortguy4cll · « **Reply #15 on:** February 06, 2019, 08:04:33 PM »

In Canada its not the same thing. Honestly I find it ridicilous that people want to do cll becsuse other people are taller than thrm. Its a very immature way of thinking. There is heightism in Canads. And if you are not the right height it completely rui s your life. Every part of my life has been ruined vecause of my height.

Canon · « **Reply #16 on:** February 06, 2019, 08:07:06 PM »

Save money for ll and do it if you can

shortguy4cll · « **Reply #17 on:** February 06, 2019, 08:13:36 PM »

Yea. I think im one of those candidates that need a height makeover. I feel so down. Being a guy and having no one respect me is the worse thing in the world. Im just worried about my past...like there are records showing that im short. I dont know. But i think there isnt anything worse than being short in Canada.

TheMagicalBlueEye · « **Reply #18 on:** February 06, 2019, 11:55:26 PM »

Quote from: shortguy4cll on February 06, 2019, 10:55:55 AM

Five feet 2

O brother, I have the same exact feeling and outlook on people as you but to some degree I doubt if it's 100% caused by height solely. I'm 176 here in Europe but I'm also not treated fairly in many social situations and women perceive me as a weakling and weirdo. There must by other qualities that trigger this kind of situations.

I'm writing this message on a influence of Ambien for I want to sleep rather peacefully but I was prompted to write it anyway after thought race in my head. It's really hard to write something when every letter is waiving and bedning and whole text seem to dance

btw you've got a very sad set of emojis compared to other sites.

Ayesha12345 · « **Reply #19 on:** February 10, 2019, 10:13:49 PM »

Hey, why does it matter if there’s past record about your old height, let it be. People get facial surgeries and nose jobs and look different from their past selves. 32 is still young, but think about it hard before you choose Cll. I hope when you go for it you arnt alone, I hope you can coordinate with someone from the forum so you arnt alone when you do this, or choose a doctor who has several patients in a social environment like dr Paley. You want to be mentally strong and not depress when you’re in the cll journey..best of luck..

wannagrowtaller · « **Reply #20 on:** February 10, 2019, 10:40:08 PM »

One thing I don't recommend? Psychiatrist/psychologist

They don't help in anything.

Canon · « **Reply #21 on:** February 12, 2019, 04:40:39 AM »

People don't care about your past. They just see and realize you in that very moment. It's the same with all cosmetic surgeries whether it's teeth or hair.

epikness · « **Reply #22 on:** February 12, 2019, 05:55:58 PM »

Height is not everything in life. I have many short friends that have almost 30x the money that I make in a single year. I recommend going to a therapist before you try this surgery. Even my friend who is only doing this to get into modeling took around 3 months of therapy before we got told that he isn't insane or paranoid. Just want to achieve his long time dream of modeling as his job.

But doing height surgery and thinking that you will become a completely different person is wrong. I have met many former patients while researching and none of them have really become completely different. They do get treated differently but it does not affect the relationship with the people they really know.

Unless you are below 5'3, you are not getting your life ruined by height. And this is coming from a person who once lived in one of the most heightism countries in the world(korea and china).
They stop caring about height and more about how you take care of yourself and how much you earn after your 20/early 30's.

InFullStryde · « **Reply #23 on:** February 12, 2019, 07:30:13 PM »

Quote from: epikness on February 12, 2019, 05:55:58 PM

Height is not everything in life. I have many short friends that have almost 30x the money that I make in a single year. I recommend going to a therapist before you try this surgery. Even my friend who is only doing this to get into modeling took around 3 months of therapy before we got told that he isn't insane or paranoid. Just want to achieve his long time dream of modeling as his job.

But doing height surgery and thinking that you will become a completely different person is wrong. I have met many former patients while researching and none of them have really become completely different. They do get treated differently but it does not affect the relationship with the people they really know.

Unless you are below 5'3, you are not getting your life ruined by height. And this is coming from a person who once lived in one of the most heightism countries in the world(korea and china).
They stop caring about height and more about how you take care of yourself and how much you earn after your 20/early 30's.

Epikness - Great words. You are right, my friend. I have said it once and I'll say it again..... Height doesn't make the man. The man makes the height. Before my surgery, I was 5' 1.25" and I have it all. Great looks, Great Business, Great woman, Great dating life, Money, Car, Comfort, Friends, Family..and more! I have it all and I'm short. Height may stop some woman from wanting to go out with you (FORGET THEM) and it may even make a hiring manager hesitant for a few moments (HIS LOSS) ; but HEIGHT cannot stop the amount of LOVE and CARE that you give to yourself. Love yourself and take care of yourself and I promise you that you will be GREAT. I'm not just giving fake lip service. I'm living proof. I encourage anyone to private message me just to talk about this. I'm going to get my private chat name setup to chat.

You are not defined by your height! Your height is defined by you! Take care guys! My next update for my diary is coming shortly.

epikness · « **Reply #24 on:** February 12, 2019, 07:55:10 PM »

I'm glad you agree InFullStyrde! Too many people think that this surgery will make them get 1million$ or women groveling. It is certainly a confident booster and at a certain height, may actually open up more options for women or(rarely) jobs. But it will not truly change you as a being. The change itself will be very miniscule compared to your fantasy. I only hope that I can help some people change their mind.

On that note, I'll be sure to read your soon-to-come diary, InFullStryde! If you don't mind, I hope that you can answer some of my questions haha.

I hope you become fully restored and a NBA player hehe

montahn · « **Reply #25 on:** February 13, 2019, 09:11:01 PM »

Quote from: shortguy4cll on February 06, 2019, 10:47:11 AM

I feel really depressed because of my height. My appearance has totally ruined my life. It makes it so hard to have people respect me and treat me fairly. People think I'm inferior because of my height. It's hard to keep friends and meet people from the opposite sxx. It's just a lose situation

Sometimes I wonder how much doing call will change my life. I mean I lived all this long and have records that I was short. Is height really going to get me the dream life and respect that I wznt?

Same pinch. i have the problem as you feel

Johnson1111 · « **Reply #26 on:** February 15, 2019, 05:18:51 AM »

Quote from: TheMagicalBlueEye on February 06, 2019, 11:55:26 PM

O brother, I have the same exact feeling and outlook on people as you but to some degree I doubt if it's 100% caused by height solely. I'm 176 here in Europe but I'm also not treated fairly in many social situations and women perceive me as a weakling and weirdo. There must by other qualities that trigger this kind of situations.

I'm writing this message on a influence of Ambien for I want to sleep rather peacefully but I was prompted to write it anyway after thought race in my head. It's really hard to write something when every letter is waiving and bedning and whole text seem to dance btw you've got a very sad set of emojis compared to other sites.

lol you at 176 talking to someone who's 5'2" like you can resonate. You have NO IDEA what being 5'2" is like. You're in two different worlds.

TruthBomber · « **Reply #27 on:** February 18, 2019, 04:04:07 PM »

Quote from: shortguy4cll on February 06, 2019, 10:55:55 AM

Five feet 2

Ouch, it never even began bro. So sorry. Reroll and try again.

shortguy4cll · « **Reply #28 on:** February 18, 2019, 08:21:31 PM »

The reality is ..I work from a different mind frame than most of humanity. I never really judge and treat people based on appearance. I treat people how they treat me and how I should be treated. And when I was growing up it used to be like that. Now in the past decade it isnt like that all. We are living in a eugenics world. It means people have to prove they deserve to be treated fairly. Equality is not even right its a privelege. Meaning by a persons genetic trait ANd action we must quality to be treated equally. It has turned into a reward and punishment game. And its not bad if you are prepared for this but if you are unprepared then it will destroy you. There is no compassion or mercy in this world. Its just condemnation. You do ONE mistake, have ONE flaw physical or mental..then everyone judges you...and all of a sudden people think oh that person doesnt DESERVE to be treated faily. This is how our world works now. We must be perfect or look perfect to fit in. ..or else get eliminated in society.

psilocybe · « **Reply #29 on:** February 19, 2019, 10:33:21 PM »

I'm 5'3ish so I know how you feel. I also agree the people 5'7 are in a totally different world. Everyone wants to be taller, but in no way are men 5'7 discriminated or looked down at anywhere close to the level us abnormally short guys are.

I've talked about this before, but I don't think LL "fixes" all of the cosmetic problems associated with being abnormally short. Your hands are (more than likely) very small, your arms are shorter, your feet are smaller, etc. These things will not go unnoticed with a romantic partner. They can probably be much more forgiven than your height, but nonetheless it should be something to realize before getting LL.

I just hope aliens abduct me and use their 2 billion year old technological advancements to turn me into a tall man

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