Short enough to know that heightism is real. ANd short enough to know the social benefits I will gain once i am my desired height. My deisred height is to be five feet six female.
I don't mean to ignore your plight. Only you really know what you are going through. But unless you're delusional and think you can grow over 4-5 inches from two surgeries max, if you say your dream is 5'6" - that means you probably aren't that short. As a woman, if you are over 5ft, yes, you might get jabs from family/friends/coworkers - but nothing even remotely close to what you'd face as a short man. NOTHING.
Honestly, if you are really suffering, it's probably because you're just generally unattractive (irrespective of your race). I agree that black women do face a lot of stigmas in the dating world, and that's very wrong and unfair. I wont argue with you on that. But I know plenty of petite black women who hang with mostly white people/date men of all different races, I know one who is marred to a white guy with two kids...she's also very cute! She's TINY, maybe 5ft, she's black like you, and she's friggin' adorable (and I mean that in a good way, NOT in a demeaning way the way you'll probably try to spin it as).
You're probably just mentally unstable or unattractive. No matter what you or any woman says, despite how much you may truly suffer because of your height (which I believe is a mental "excuse" for other issues you have going on that you don't want to acknowledge)...being a short man is infinitely worse. Period. End of story. Case closed.