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[harris88]

Hello,

So I am pretty much decided on getting LL at Paley institute. I work in the IT industry. I am planning to NOT quit my job and just get the surgery. Then I ask for remote work option from my manager. If my manager refuses to allow me to work remotely from Florida or asks me for a doctor's letter then I just resign. Also if they allow remote work and I am unable to work remotely due to pain and tiredness, again I quit or get fired.

However as per policy I am expected to serve a notice period when I resign, I'm not sure how it would work when I'm away from work in Florida.

I know it's safer to quit my job, but I have a great job and would ideally not want to lose it as much as possible.

What do you guys think?

[Skyisthelimit]

You should NOT quit your job for this surgery. If you are decided to go through the surgery then suck it up, pop some pills and go to work. This should not even be discussed. Set your priorities straight. I’m not saying put aside the cll, just modify your priorities so that they can both fit in it. What I would recommend you is, I don’t know how it works there, but here you can take more hours at work and then on holidays you can use those extra hours you took and extend your time off. A bonus is that you’ll be doing the stryde method if im not mistaken, so it will not be visible and it’s weight bearing. You can simply say you’re correcting your bone structure. Just think carefully about your priorities, the rest is up to you. Good luck and hope this advice serves you well!

[Ascending]

As an alternative why not ask for a 4 month unpaid sabbatical assuming you have enough funds to keep you going?  That should be enough time to complete the lengthening and get back to work.  I worked during my lengthening and despite having some serious complications still managed to keep working - but I was no where near as productive as my norm and I really struggled.  In the end I had to take some unpaid leave to deal with the complications.  This was not good career-wise but couldn't be avoided.  If you are planning to go to the Paley institute you should have a much better experience.  Even then I would recommend taking some time off to focus completely on lengthening and the physio.

[Montreal172]

You do know you can ask Paley for a note, and the note does not specify any details about a surgery...

[FormerKidd]

What state are you located in?

[OverSixFeetTall]

Bro,

Sounds like you’re stuck in the fork of the road

I’ve been there, but don’t succumb to pressure

Ask your employer for a reasonable time off or what the procedures are with a medical leave

Worst case scenario, if you do have the resign due extended period of time, leave in a good note and reapply when you’re fully healed

Try your best to leave in a good note or try your best not to burn bridges

When I was burning out or in a phase of not giving a fk due to stress related - I wasn’t thinking

Again, check above what it’s mentioned in this post

[harris88]

Appreciate the responses guys  including the sarcastic one by skyisthelimit. I get the point, LL is super important and one must not be distracted while doing it. But as per my plan I am ready to abscond my job if I can't handle it while lengthening.

@FormerKidd I am in California.

@Montreal172 hmm is this true? Does anyone know what Paley writes in his medical note after surgery?

My biggest worry is what would happen if I quit my job with a day's notice. Most people serve a notice period, transfer knowledge, say good byes and leave, but in my case I am worried if quitting abruptly without even showing a medical letter as evidence would cause problems down the line.

@Ascending  I could get a sabbatical if I told them the true reason and showed a letter which I'm not willing to. They don't give out unconditional sabbaticals where I work. Did you work remotely or did you even to go office while lengthening?

[Gueong]

Look into Dr.Debipashard(did his residency under Paley)  or Dr. M, you will only need 2 weeks stay in either. You can continue to work but it's easier to sell to your boss a 2 week vacation follows by a period of remote work for PTing.

Regarding medical proof you can ask your doctor to write a generic letter noting "a bone procedure was done on the leg" is done and a "recommendation" is advised as you will be an inpatient (even for a day or couple, you technically are incapacitated and hospitalized). Remember, you don't need to provide proof, employment is not one sided if they're not willing to work with you then that's that. You have some leverage to negotiate.

[FormerKidd]

Appreciate the responses guys  including the sarcastic one by skyisthelimit. I get the point, LL is super important and one must not be distracted while doing it. But as per my plan I am ready to abscond my job if I can't handle it while lengthening.

@FormerKidd I am in California.

If you are from California, I would suggest you also consider filing a claim with the state's Short Term Disability program.  Note that since Dr. Paley is outside California, you will have to request paper forms to do this, and I think you have to file no sooner than 8 days after surgery but within 22 days of stopping working.

[harris88]

Thanks formerkidd I have sent you a pm.

Hello @Gueong yes I'm aware that Debiparshad and Mahboubian let you leave after 2 weeks. I am myself not very comfortable going to work after 2 weeks with 2 broken bones. I don't think anyone would do that even after a more common fracture.
Also I feel Paley institute is the best at LL and would rather just go with the best. They deal with some really messed up cases here and it's reassuring to know that they can fix you no matter what happens. And the letter yes it would be nice if they wrote it like you described it.

[TheAlchemist]

Based on my experience I'd highly recommend not working at all during the distraction phase of lengthening. Your work performance will suffer and the decrease in work performance could impact your overall career trajectory.

In my case, during distraction, I was probably 30% work capacity. Mentally you aren't even there, it's so hard to focus.

My advice: take a leave of absence through the entire distraction phase, and go back to work shortly after, preferably remote.

[harris88]

Thanks @TheAlchemist

A leave of absence requires me to submit some kind of reason and evidence. Do you know what kind of letter Paley writes? Honestly if I just get this done and approach my employer with my surgery letter they would give me the leave of absence because I would be legitimately disabled but I would not want to let them know I had LL. I emailed Paley asking about this and he tersely wrote

"I already sent you all the info on this - bilateral femur lengthening."

I don't think he understood my concern and replied to just one of my 3 questions 

[Montreal172]

Its clear you’ve never been on medical leave.
Any doctor will provide a generic letter stating the start date if your medicL leave and your name.
That is legit all the info required. Your employer does not
have the right to ask anything about your condition.
But like I said you can always say you have a limb lenght discrepancy.
So when you’re back people are not suprised by your new height.
Maybe gradually wear insoles.

[FormerKidd]

Thanks @TheAlchemist

A leave of absence requires me to submit some kind of reason and evidence. Do you know what kind of letter Paley writes? Honestly if I just get this done and approach my employer with my surgery letter they would give me the leave of absence because I would be legitimately disabled but I would not want to let them know I had LL. I emailed Paley asking about this and he tersely wrote

"I already sent you all the info on this - bilateral femur lengthening."

I don't think he understood my concern and replied to just one of my 3 questions 

Dr. Paley is extremely busy and you're likely to only get short replies.  I would suggest reaching out to other members of his staff.

[harris88]

Dr. Paley is extremely busy and you're likely to only get short replies.  I would suggest reaching out to other members of his staff.

Who usually handles the paperwork and stuff? Angelique?

[harris88]

Its clear you’ve never been on medical leave.
Any doctor will provide a generic letter stating the start date if your medicL leave and your name.
That is legit all the info required. Your employer does not
have the right to ask anything about your condition.
But like I said you can always say you have a limb lenght discrepancy.
So when you’re back people are not suprised by your new height.
Maybe gradually wear insoles.

There is this law called FMLA for example which allows a company's HR to ask about the employee's health condition if the employee asks for leave through FMLA. I don't think it's as you describe. I think it's best I talk to a lawyer with my questions though. Still I wanted to know if anyone went through this process here.