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Maverick

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The reaction of friends after the surgery
« on: January 16, 2014, 09:35:19 PM »

Hi Guys!! I have just registered on here so would be great to get involved with you guys and hopefully learn from some of your experiences.

I have read up a lot on the lengthening procedure, its risks and difficult stages from operation to recovery.
One thing I have not seen a lot of is the phsychological effects once (if all goes well) the healing is 100% complete.
For example If you are somebody with friends like mine who are typical lads, What is the general reaction. Everything is a go for me but it would be a great loss to be alienated from a group of friends and a social status I have long had to effortly build due to my short stature?.


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Re: The reaction of friends after the surgery
« Reply #1 on: January 16, 2014, 09:54:29 PM »

As to the topic at hand, it's different for every person. Some report having a much more positive experience within their social circle whereas others say people noticed right away they got taller and kind of make fun of them for it. I think it just depends on whether or not your friends are jerks who will try and put you down for a noticeable height gain.

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Initial height: 164 cm / ~5'5" (Surgery on 6/25/2014)
Current height: 170 cm / 5'7" (Frames removed 6/29/2015)
External Tibia lengthening performed by Dr Mangal Parihar in Mumbai, India.
My Cosmetic Leg Lengthening Experience

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Re: The reaction of friends after the surgery
« Reply #2 on: January 16, 2014, 11:52:16 PM »

In my case,

All my family members (even distant relatives) and almost all of my closest friends know that I'm doing LL. They haven't judged me for it, they were only concerned for my health. Today one of my friends called, I couldn't answer him immedately (like I always do) since I was at the hospital in the x-ray room. I later called him in the day, first thing he said was "I thought you were dead" jokingly

People sent flowers, cakes, even chocolate-dipped strawberries. I felt grateful and a bit ashamed after all the pampering gestures. It's not an accident after all, no matter how difficult the journey is, I can't deny it's a cosmetic surgery.

My ex girlfriend said "You're a psychopath", at which I laughed, and thanked for the compliment

I hope to share my experiences after recovery extensively. Such as,

- How will my other friends (whom I haven't seen for 3 years) react?
- Will people say "You look taller!" or "Have you lost weight?"
- How will I feel about it?

Considering that a friend of mine (a girl) said "You look taller with your new haircut!" a couple years ago when I started wearing 1-inch insoles inside my shoes, my prediction is that a 3-inch gain is impossible not to get attention.
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Re: The reaction of friends after the surgery
« Reply #3 on: March 02, 2014, 10:16:44 PM »

Sorry its taken so long to reply, I have just moved and had no computer until now.
Thanks for your comments. Congratulations by the way for having the strength to have got through this and im glad its worked out for you both.
What a tough decision to make. I am thinking of maybe wearing lifts for a while to take the edge of the immediate height. You sound like you have great family and friends. Which procedure did you go with and who do you recommend?
It is difficult to work out the overall costs with care ,accomodation,physio etc as I don't want to run out of money half way through.
Your thoughts would be appreciated
Thanks
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Re: The reaction of friends after the surgery
« Reply #4 on: March 02, 2014, 11:26:59 PM »

Hello maverick,

Thank you for the kind words, yes I feel very lucky to have such a great family and friends. I have a diary on this website. I am currently doing femur lengthening with Dr. Muharrem Inan in Istanbul, Turkey. We are using the internal Fitbone nail, produced by Wittenstein in Germany. I have currently done more than 6 cm of lengthening, and will stop lengthening in about 15 days, hopefully when I've reached 8 cm.
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Re: The reaction of friends after the surgery
« Reply #5 on: March 05, 2014, 09:48:45 AM »

Would they notice the difference in the first place ?
even if  it was big amount like 10cm . .. I doubt they'll notice that..

 I watched documentary film states that 75% of ppl in the world, their brain illusion and deny what they see if he has some doubt about it.. 
my poor English wont help me to explain the theory ...

but here is what could happen .. your friends will see you, they will notice there is something different about you, their brain already know the fact that it's impossible for adult to gain height after 21yrs, so automatically and unconsciously they'll eliminate the fact that you gain some  inches, so either they will deny the different that they notice or they'll find another explanation like you shed sm kg..

in my case I end it from the beginning , b4 doing LL I told my friends I don't want to see them  anymore, cuz I want to start  a new life and I don't want them to be part of it... they try a lot but after few months they gave up.. except one 
For me I can make friends easily, so this is not an issue for me..  so if you want to save yourself from some negative reactions that you may get then maybe you should go to somewhere where nobody know you...



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Re: The reaction of friends after the surgery
« Reply #6 on: March 11, 2014, 07:52:31 PM »

Hi Chris. I have not heard of this surgeon and I take it you have done plenty of research on him. I am going to check out your diary for some details. I may have some questions if you would be kind enough to answer.
Hope everything is going well and good on you.
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Re: The reaction of friends after the surgery
« Reply #7 on: March 11, 2014, 07:56:45 PM »

and to disobedient, I am actually going to use the same reason for leaving. Its interesting you say this as Ideally I don't want them to know. But having said that the pros of the extra inches would outway the cons of social grief. I am imagining though that people around my height that naturaly would compare themselves to me would certainly ask questions.
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Re: The reaction of friends after the surgery
« Reply #8 on: March 11, 2014, 09:24:57 PM »

Hi Chris. I have not heard of this surgeon and I take it you have done plenty of research on him. I am going to check out your diary for some details. I may have some questions if you would be kind enough to answer.
Hope everything is going well and good on you.

Sure maverick, anytime.
Thanks, everything is going well. Just a few days left to reach my goal of 8 cm.
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